Comments on: At a loss https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/ask-deepak-at-a-loss/ Committed to Creating a Peaceful, Just, Sustainable, Healthy, and Joyful World. Tue, 24 Feb 2009 15:37:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: Doniece https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/ask-deepak-at-a-loss/#comment-3694 Tue, 24 Feb 2009 15:37:54 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=1734#comment-3694 I would like to validate and empathize with you because I have followed a similar path and as I am about to turn 52 myself, I understand exactly what you are saying. I have given up many dreams and desires to raise my kids to become healthy functioning adults (my youngest is almost 19). I am an artist, but have been helping my husband with his business since day one, which is not my choice in careers, but we do what we have to do. After a lifetime of unrealized happiness in the marriage I hold on hoping he will change in some small way and accept and love me unconditionally. Unfortunately, he is 15 years older than me and extremely set in his backward ways of thinking about my passions. I have always put my needs aside, but things are about to change on a major level.

As I get closer to my self and who I am in this crazy mixed up world, I realize that I need to take care of me first, which was not taught to me as a young person, it was do for others, so I have that down. Now I am diving into a new world of possibilities by ignoring his negative reactions whenever I present my dreams to him which do not include “the business” . I have had to overcome so many obstacles to survive 28 years with a man who always put me at the end of the list, way behind employees and our children, so I can actually see that it has not been the sacred relationship I have been working to achieve. I am finally not “allowing” his negative energy affect me.

I guess what I am saying is keep following your dreams and do not lt him take away your power to be you, it is not easy at times, but when you make tiny steps forward it feels very gratifying. Life, from beginning to end, is a set of challenges and obstacles, helping to guide us to our true potential, and where there are roadblocks, there is the capacity to change the negative to positive. Follow your dream at whatever cost and you will find the self love needed to complete your life’s work.

I hope I have not crossed any boundaries and I wish you peace and love in anything you do.

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