Comments on: Growing spiritually apart in relationship

By: Terry Neave

Terry Neave — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 02:15:36 +0000

My husband has read your books and other books from the same bookstore self for 10 years. He has also become a Buddhist and believes in detachment. He has left our 32 year marriage (suddenly and without speaking to anyone) to “be single without responsibilities and find his true path.” Why do so many self-help books not talk about the joys and self-fulfillment of family life? If my husband had known about Deepak’s 40 year marriage he may have seen that it is possible to be enlightened and stay with his family.

By: Vidya

Vidya — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 18:03:41 +0000

Well said, Deepak!! In my case insecurities got triggered for about 2 years before I decided to file for divorce. Trust had been broken and there was not enough love to repair the relationship. The only thing I felt I could reach out to is my spirit to examine my insecurities.

By: Michael Prues

Michael Prues — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:28:51 +0000

It’s not easy balancing personal growth and a relationship. Throw a couple children in the mix and patience and empathy can get thin in a hurry. If both parties can be completely honest with themselves and their feelings, a bridge of understanding and forgiveness can be built. My wife and I went to counseling for a year after our two children were born 16 months apart because everything was so crazy and uncharted for the two of us. The best advice and biggest realization I received from therapy is to own your feelings and not project them onto your partner or anyone else. There are as many paths as there are people on the planet all with their own level of consciousness and connection to the source.

By: Bernie

Bernie — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:12:08 +0000

I define emotions as trapped feelings from the past or anxiety of the future. When these emotions are refelt fully, they can be released and the emotions can then no longer be triggered. Therefore, the person changes. However, this allows the spiritual person to feel more in the Now. One can experience life more directly by not being lost in the past due to the feelings that were not dealt with at the time. Therefore, as one grows spiritually, they no longer partake in the games of old and so old relationships become outdated where one person’s ego is no longer being fed to feed the past.

When emotions are released, one is actually loving you more by accepting you for what you are without having to be triggered to fight about it. Energy is freed up to experience all that is New and envigorating.