I agree that this man is being very responsible in his realtionship with his wife.
But do you even comprehend what you are suggesting? It is almost callous. his man has childeren. Divorce affects childeren for the rest of their lives on so many levels. Chideren need a deep connection to their parents in order to be able to trust life (and God) and the world around them.

Personally I feel that it is not OK to be involved with a married man with childeren. For two reasons, the first: the time he spends with you, he should be spending with his childeren, he should be helping his wife with raising these childeren. And he should not put an emotional aspect of himself out of reach for his family.
Second, if the extramarital affair has arisen from a certain lack in the marriage, the affair becomes a crutch for the marriage. Sort of like a lightningrod.
Furthermore it is wrong to lie to people. You create insecurity, sadness and fear and that is not what loving and revering someone is about.

I agree with Deepak, I think marriages are sacred and we as outsiders should regard them as such even when the people in the marriage do not. We do not have to stoop to their level just because it would make us able to get our hands on what we (think we) want. It is much more loving and caring to be supportive of marriages by staying out of them when they are going through a rough spot.

And to the soulmate man I would like to add:
I met my soulmate in high school. It is now 20+ years later. He is married, so am I, to other people. I feel that my connection to him stands outside time and space. I feel blessed to have met and befriended him and we might meet again some day.
Anything will be good.
I love my husband and childeren very very deeply and feel very connected to my husband. I don’t feel any conflict or guilt in this. It simply is what it is. Love is always a good thing.

Yes encourage virtue, I agree with you 🙂

I am married for almost 41 years to a guy who thinks the same as you, yet does not believe in a god, has become a pure atheist.

When we encountered those challenges, we talked about it with one another and posed questions to one another. For instance: how would you feel when I would go ‘astray’ ?

We discussed this in depth and came to the conclusion that what you do not want to happen to yourself, you do not want to happen to another.

And so we renewed our marriage vow, but now consciously between the two of us and not because the Church demanded it so.

And yes, then a marriage becomes sacred.

This is how I raised my children, to make them aware of their own responsibility.

I was from the first generation who was offered the anti conception pill by medical science. This enlarged the freedom of women in our part of the world enormously.
My female generation experienced an emancipation wave because of this.

It was very important in my time to educate my own children (a daughter and a son) about the birds and the bees myself. The doctors in those days advised the mothers to let their daughters decide for themselves whether they would take the pill or not.

I do not say all the freedom that came with it has only been for the good. I have also understood that the more freedom you have, the more responsibility comes with it.

I firmly believe in the fact that what you radiate you receive back. This does not always have to be positive. It can be negative and then you learn a valuable lesson.

At least this is my experience up till now. Am still learning 🙂

In one of his previous books, I remember that Deepak once stated that marriage is sacred. This is already quite some years ago.

However, Deepak always throws you back at yourself. In the end you and your own believes are what matter to you.

Look at his latest daily inspiration: “You hold the world together at a very subtle level,
the source of creation known as God. Together, you & God produce reality.
-Deepak Chopra

In my humble view no one can answer your question but yourself in the end.

The soul is always complete and self-sufficient in itself says Deepak.

This is true but it is my experience in life that this truth is not readily available at a younger age but comes to you when you mature.

I’m a 24 old woman and I admire your work. I went last week to your lecture in Amsterdam. I was really amazingly good. The reason why I like your work because you can put it in practice right away and change your life for the better.

However I’m not totally satisfied with your answer right now. I’m really sorry. I know you are a very busy man and it’s very kind of you to even answer our questions. But this answer is just not enough.

It sounds like this man is a very responsible husband and father. After 12 years of marriage he fall in love with an another woman. I think he really wants to leave his wife and his marriage to be with this other woman. But he is afraid he will make a terrible mistake although he feels that this other woman is more right for him.

Is it okay for this man to leave his marriage but still be a responsible dad and start a romantic relationship with this other woman?
Is it okay for this other woman to get involved with a married man who has children? Or does she interfere with his family and will she create bad karma for herself?

This happens to all of us at some point. Should you leave your marriage when you fall in love with somebody else? Is it okay to start a relationship with a man who is leaving his wife and children for you?

I hope you will answer this question.

With kind regards,

Zakaria Mann

I lived alone for 10 years before I married. I loved it. I truly enjoyed my own company. There were opportunities to marry in those years, but I would not marry anyone who could not tolerate being alone and did not enjoy their own company, as it became my understanding that these individuals were not complete within themselves and were looking for someone out their in the world to complete them. Through my own experience I can give a testimony to Deepaks words of wisdom, that fully complete souls join to share love out of joy. I am now married, my husband complete within himself, and I have to say that one thing for sure is, we do not to seek each other for our joy, rather we share the innate joy and love that comes from the souls expression within each of us. Peace…..