Comments on: Susceptibility to others feelings

By: heidi h

heidi h — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 01:43:30 +0000

some example triggers…this person makes me feel like (fill-in-the-blank), this person reminds me of the time (fill-in-the-blank) happened. this person reminds me of my fears, this person doesn’t …..respect me, like me, love me, listen to me, honor my boundaries, treat me with kindness. This person uses me, verbally or physically assaults me, offends me, hurts my feelings or reminds me of someone in my past who did. This person has more than me, makes me feel jealous or envious, angers me, makes me feel sad, or somehow reminds me of something in my past that did etc…

By: heidi h

heidi h — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 01:30:59 +0000

i think i understand what he is saying. and, i can emphathize here. it is like when your in a good mood or trying to be/trying to be positive and a negative person comes around/or a person with a vibe that disturbs your energy comes around, whether they are verbal or not, something in them “triggers” us to be reminded of the negative things about ourselves (or, the things that suck (bluntly) in our own lives. we all have things that suck face it, no one is exempt, no matter how well they fake it). so, the significant question is what are the thoughts that are brought to your mind when around this person/event/thing etc… voila–therein lies your answer. for instance, when they are telling you all their problems, do you think about your own problems? triggered. when they do such-n-such does it remind you of the time/person/place/event/thing that such-n-thus happened? triggered. test this…check out your own thoughts next time you are feeling this way. the remedy for this is to remain in the observer state, not engaging, just witnessing. here you’ll learn it is a change of perspective. it is not always easy to do. but i bet you’ll find that you hadn’t noticed your thoughts as so significant before but all the while it was going on inside you at a deeper level leaving you drained/sick/tired afterwards, thus, feeling like their vibe rubbed off on you when in reality your vibe was stirred up and what was at the bottom tries to surface. it sucks to think that mess could be in us we do tend to be a species of blame the other person though. we make a choice to learn from it or resist. the quicker we choose to learn the closer we come to peace.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 19:03:11 +0000

Bingo! You know, you’re right on target with ‘my’ situation! I’ve been going thru a big life trial right now and feeling somewhat ‘off kilter’. (I came close to dying in my son’s arms a few weeks ago, was in ICU a week) Talk about a wake up call! I’m gradually getting my energy & strength back.. 2 long of a story….I’m getting much better is main thing, just not quite completely yet.

As I think back over the times, when I’m ‘out of the flow’, is when I’m very susceptible to others feelings, energy, etc.

I, like you, have picked up on other’s energy since a child. In my very young years, I use to think it was like a curse, since getting wiser over the years, I know better now.

Thanks for your reply Starlight! Sometimes, when you’re in the thick of the woods, it’s hard to see the forest, thru the tree’s….

By: starlight

starlight — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 16:40:16 +0000

Since i was a child i used to be very sensitive to other’s energy, because i was naturally loving or a people’s person since i was a kid, i spent my entire time wondering about people, and why they do certain things, i took onlot of murky energy of people, and would feel exausted., thank god i helped myself as i got older. by reading books and understanding this whole sharing energy factor.

I think that when we are unbalanced, and not feeling self-confident, or involved in something thats important in our lives, it is easy to be carried away by other’s needs and desires. this feels to us as resistence in our own system.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:04:31 +0000

Great question Lisa! As I read ths, I wondered the same thing 🙂

I encountered this yesterday, I was taking a friend in my car somewhere and was suddenly ‘overwhelmed’ with another friends horrid negative ‘vibes’. I had been in a wonderful, energetic, loving mood & frame of mind. She started talking ‘extremely negative’. I kindly asked her to please ‘stop’, she didn’t, totally ignored me. I actually stopped my car, got out and stood there until she finally got the ‘message’. She then apoligized and we went on. After she left my presence, when I dropped her off at her destination, I couldn’t believe the horrid ‘energy’ I was left with, it took forever to shake it. I certainly didn’t have it prior to coming into her presence.

Is this perhaps a key into understanding if it was hers or my negative feelings and energy? I’ve ‘never’ experienced such horrid vibes in my entire 50 years old life. So I don’t see how it could have been dormant within me?

Any comments to help understand?

By: lisa

lisa — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 21:32:55 +0000

How do you know whether it is your own negative feelings being triggered or a taking on
off other peoples energy?