Comments on: Betrayal

By: La Toya

La Toya — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 12:59:09 +0000

DETACHMENT

By: La Toya

La Toya — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 01:45:48 +0000

Complete detachment!

By: La Toya

La Toya — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 21:59:59 +0000

When it comes to delusion there is only one way to deal with it:

Develop discering skills
Recognize its presence
Disengage
Distance
Detachment

It will persist, but without our energy – it truly has no substance.

By: La Toya

La Toya — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 13:13:28 +0000

Doubtful,

I do not intend to make you even more doubting but what if it is the ex-husband submitting the question. The ex-wife does not have real motives to do it. On the other hand the ex-man ” kills two rabbits with one shot” in this case.

1. He publicly announces his victory. Oh, the ego likes this kind of performance!

2. Then publicly tells the woman “to let go, keep quiet, move on, forget about it, forgive if possible and maybe even learn something”.

He might have even written half of the response-comments.

Delusion knows so many ways! Since I started paying attention to it – I have been amazed myself by its creativity. Delusion keeps it fresh.

There is no winning over it. The only remedy is identifying it early enough, choosing distance and maintaining full detachment.

Disclaimer: My angle might be one of the many. So Doubtful do not take it seriously. Yours might be more valid than mine. The goal is not to figure it out but to choose position.

It is chosen!

By: Doubtful

Doubtful — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 11:56:53 +0000

I am very impressed by the responses. Thanks to all and thank you, Dr. Chopra.

For the betrayed I have a couple of questions. Did your man treat the same way he ended up treating you other people? Right in front of your approving eyes? Maybe that is how he made most of his living – by being overly clever and taking advantage of others? Maybe you even encouraged him? Did you benefit from all that in the past? Did you ever try to stop him in circumstances when others were taken advantage? Did you really feel you were extra special and he would never treat you that same way? Are you telling us everything? Are you saying that all those years your man was a saint and all by sudden he turned into a very bad boy?

I do not have comments.

By: Robin Cohen

Robin Cohen — Wed, 04 May 2011 20:04:24 +0000

This is an amazing response. By focusing on how we live inside the narrative of what happened, we become helpless and trapped in that story. I like the way you encourage an active movement away from that narrative, and a creation of a new story- very empowering. Excellent!

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 04 May 2011 18:28:58 +0000

I recently saw you in a vidio supporting Mr. Kumar Trivedi for his amazing ability to heal. I am very excited to receive my blessings. I am also, very sad that Michael Jackson wasn’t helped by Mr Trivedi, I know Michael was seeking spiritual help, would you know if he received blessings and were you able to share it with him.

Thankyou, I appreciate all your great work.

By: Lorrie

Lorrie — Wed, 04 May 2011 14:09:13 +0000

There is no “letting go”. There is learning, growing and realizing and then releasing. I too get annoyed when someone say’s “let it go”. It’s a process. Life is a process. Learn from your pain, you don’t have to suffer. Suffering is a choice, I’ve learned. Go inside yourself and find your peace for it resideds in YOU. xx Lorrie

By: Flavio

Flavio — Wed, 04 May 2011 02:49:03 +0000

If someone betrayed you, in some point of your life (this or the previous ones) YOU did sth to him. Nothing occurs without a previous reason. You have to let it go not only to save your energy so you can move on, but also because now you cannot see or understand the real cause of it. Remember that God’s laws are perfect, and injustices just don’t exist, whether we accept it or not. Let it go, but change yourself and your life too, otherwise you will pass through this experience one more time. Peace.

By: Jann

Jann — Tue, 03 May 2011 19:28:37 +0000

when i am feeling hurt and angry and someone tells me to “let it go” i mostly feel like i want to STRANGLE them! from what i gathered from DC`s answer is that…you have to feel what you feel, let that run it`s course; but you do not have to LABEL yourself a victim or a betrayed. as you move thru you hurt and anger, you can move towards the more powerful YOU, who is beautiful and beloved by the Universe. do not deny what you feel and do not let anyone tell you HOW to feel! and try…try to trust that in time you will see and experience what is waiting patiently for you. you are and always will be Triumphant.
OXOX

By: Beverley

Beverley — Tue, 03 May 2011 19:17:07 +0000

Sometimes when we try to ‘work out’ why things happen, that too becomes something that we carry in – addition to the hurt that we were trying to work out in the first place. In times like that I agree with the ‘let it go’ approach. Otherwise, it just becomes a total head wreck!

By: Mavis

Mavis — Tue, 03 May 2011 18:50:30 +0000

Sometimes you wish to let go but the betrayal keeps going on and on eventhough you try to move on this person never really stops making your life impossible and all this person does affects your life in such a way that letting go is impossible. Therefore i do not believe in karma (this person keeps on going and justice is not done for more than 20 years) it affects everything, financially, children, other (new) half etc. So letting go becomes impossible!

PS: Miracle is yet to come for me?

By: vidhi

vidhi — Tue, 03 May 2011 18:32:50 +0000

I am dealing with betrayal, was confused this evening as to what should I do to get even.I just clicked on this link, and I got my answers, its better to let go then to live with anger and resentment.will try to let go and look for peace.thank you deepak.

By: Jonathan Foster

Jonathan Foster — Tue, 03 May 2011 17:46:49 +0000

Love this response! The idea of stepping outside of the betrayal story and using that energy instead to create a new story is extremely beneficial to me at this point in my life.

Thank you, Deepak, for lighting the pathway of another journeyer.

By: Massage Press

Massage Press — Tue, 03 May 2011 17:44:54 +0000

The feeling of being betrayed is an illusion. It’s simply a false indicator that you’ve invested too much faith in someone else, rather than having more faith in yourself.

By: Brenda Gaines

Brenda Gaines — Tue, 03 May 2011 17:40:53 +0000

Never question the Universe’s timing and Path that has been chosen UNIQUELY for YOU! It’s in this space…that MIRACLES HAPPEN! 🙂

By: mmpeapot

mmpeapot — Sun, 01 May 2011 15:25:15 +0000

sometimes letting go is the hardest part

By: Ranjit

Ranjit — Sun, 01 May 2011 12:05:37 +0000

“anger is an acid that does more harm to the vessel in which it is stored rather than to the person on whom it is poured” believe me when you let go you are open to receiving many good things and experiences you would never have experienced or achieved before.

By: Debbie Bridge

Debbie Bridge — Sun, 01 May 2011 03:15:19 +0000

As Deepak says, “Let it Go.”

By: Brian Downey

Brian Downey — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 20:23:50 +0000

I have so much experience at dealing with betrayal much of which took place in the formative years. I agree with Deepak. The sting that comes with this feeling can not be avoided yet if you look at it with the idea that the deeper mystery of life is guiding you down a richer path that we sometimes need a little nudging towards then you can heal quicker and see the opportunity that’s coming your way more clearly. Every betrayal I’ve experienced so far has given me strength and insight and there was always another door opening that provided an opportunity for growth and quality experience. Even though it can hurt try to realize that his actions were not motivated by the need to hurt you but by other internal conflicts that are part of his dilemmas. Best wishes to you and the new doors that will be opening. Brian