Comments on: Coping With Caregiving https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/ Committed to Creating a Peaceful, Just, Sustainable, Healthy, and Joyful World. Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:54:59 +0000 hourly 1 By: msjulie https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4869 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:54:59 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4869 I too have been a caregiver for a very long time. A few years ago I decided to take this time to use to grow. I began reading/studying, meditating and generally focusing on my inner development every day. as a result of this I have learned so much! I never would have gotten this far or taken the time to do this if I wasn’t being a caregiver. I am actually a different person now, free of attachments, issues, fear and anger.
I think it’s important to know that what is happening in ones life is the best thing. go with it and see where it takes you.
some years are about traveling, some years are about raising ones kids, some years are about loss, others are about falling in love…..go with what’s in store for you this year and it’ll be deeply fulfilling.

]]> By: jas https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4868 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:22:57 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4868 Terri Kennedy, in my opinion has given very nice and thoughtful support. Thanks Terri.

]]> By: Justin https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4867 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 08:42:50 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4867 Oh, is it the fate of all human beings to find infinite faults with themselves? Deepak gave some good, practical advice, as usual.

]]> By: Terri Kennedy https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4866 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:29:09 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4866 I cared for my husband who died of Lou Gehrig’s disease (ALS). We knew that we had about 3 to 5 years after his diagnoses. We set about making his dreams come true. We traveled to many places while he was able and then to Hawaii while he was wheelchair bound to see his son graduate from college. One of his dreams was to live on a golf course, so knowing that we had a couple of years left, built our dream home on a golf course. He could only move his right hand at the time which could operate his power chair to drive to the construction site where he would watch the golfers slice their shot into our backyard. We were able to change our perception that he was dying into a quest to make dreams come true. We lived in the home 6 months before he died. With only the help of a hospice nurse who would come in during the last stages to bath him, I cared for him by myself. Many, many times I was so exhausted that I didn’t think I could go on. I was suffering from lower back pain from a previous accident and that was when I had had just about enough. I looked to the heavens and demanded my health. I was willing to do what it took but I needed to have my emotional and physical health to complete this task, this labor of love. From that day on I felt no more pain, no more depression, no more exhaustion. I kept reminding myself that we had a divine contract with one another to teach and learn from this experience. I cannot tell you all the lessons I learned and how it has changed ME. I am so grateful for having the priviledge to have performed this labor of love. It is true, when you can change your mind, you can change your life.
Terri Kennedy

]]> By: Debbie Bridge https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4865 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 22:37:38 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4865 I have prayed for you and your husband and have been given the impression that you are to create a small triangular sacred space with an altar in or near your husband’s room. Burn Frankincense and pray. Peace of heart, strength and hope will be given to you both. Blessings.

]]> By: Gyanama https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4864 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 16:05:45 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4864 Mortal thought would like to make you “think” that you are only human. but the fact is your a Spiritual being-having a human experience. The human experience and many of it’s false claims of sin sickness and death, is transformed into immortal spiritual life, as we gain spiritual understanding. And we can have and develope that understanding now… One of the ways to increase our understanding as ideas of Spirit, is to consciously love and be patient with our self and those who are around us even in the face of appearing difficulties. Deepaks advice is very wisdom filled and will help you tremendously to relieve your guilt, so that you can free up your thoughts to a higher understanding. Also it is a very good idea to get help in caring for your husband. In this human experience we all need periods of renewal and time to be alone with our Maker-as the sacred periods of solitude will put you directly in touch with your eternal soul connection to God.

Again, I want to make clear, You are a Spiritual being, made in the perfect image and likeness of God. So is your husband. As difficult as this may seem, try to see your husband pass the appearances of sickness and a man who is dieing…See his Soul, which lives and moves and had his being eternally in God’s infinite goodness……and let this seeing, be the clear seeing that comes from the very heart of hearts of your own Soul in God. This will have a tremendous healing effect on both you and your husband….do your utmost to see and learn how God would see, both you and your husband- Learn more deeply about your eternal relationship with God. And this learning will bring great healing and revealing of God’s eternal presence in your life as well as your husbands life-

You can learn the spiritual Truth of who you and your husband are
even while following the human footsteps of renewal time, and getting help to care for your husband, as well as joining support groups. But it is most important to learn the Spiritual Truth—You are not only human—You are God’s perfect idea and God’s very spiritual essence appearing in form and so is your husband

It’s important for you to know that your Maker, God, does not see you or your husband as anything but as a perfect reflection in eternal being- and God’s reflection is not mortal man’s reflection of a sick and dieing person. God does not see it’s creation as anything but Perfect and good….and you are and your husband are God’s creation, not mortal man’s creation-

Knowing the Truth, seeing you as God made you,as God made all mankind. In his divine image and eternal likeness-

Gyanama

]]> By: Veronica D https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4863 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 11:24:52 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4863 “This above all: to refuse to be a victim” Margaret Atwood.

]]> By: Jas https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4862 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:17:55 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4862 You are only human, so it is possible that at times you feel angry at the constant care you have to provide. At the same time, it seems that you love him deeply, and this makes you feel guilty.
Everything happens for a reason, and what you are going through is happening for a reason. Enlightenment, somebody said, Is the quite Acceptance of things the way they are.

]]> By: Debbie Bridge https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4861 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:05:33 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4861 I will pray for you and your husband.

]]> By: Chris Moats https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/coping-with-caregiving/#comment-4860 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 04:46:01 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=5306#comment-4860 I spent 12 years nursing a gravely ill husband, before he died many years ago. The experience was long, painful, and draining. Yet that experience pushed me to struggle for understanding and finally to reach inside myself for the answers. I found freedom, peace and wisdom at the end of all the pain. Perhaps you will too.

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