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		By: Chandral		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7179</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Chandral]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jul 2011 10:23:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[WOW. You simply nailed it]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>WOW. You simply nailed it</p>
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		By: Mary		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7178</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Mary]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Jun 2011 16:17:48 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I am familiar with this case. The &quot;little girl&quot; turned out to be very special. She was already pregnant from another professor. She was definitely a player and a manipulator, as everyone found out later. The vortexes people like her create can suck in innocent people. And I bet the question was written by her. Drama-queen.

What I wonder about is when did Chopra&#039;s blog turn into a &quot;Dear Abby&quot; column from a gossip magaizine? Who is running his site? I wonder if he reads it even.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am familiar with this case. The &#8220;little girl&#8221; turned out to be very special. She was already pregnant from another professor. She was definitely a player and a manipulator, as everyone found out later. The vortexes people like her create can suck in innocent people. And I bet the question was written by her. Drama-queen.</p>
<p>What I wonder about is when did Chopra&#8217;s blog turn into a &#8220;Dear Abby&#8221; column from a gossip magaizine? Who is running his site? I wonder if he reads it even.</p>
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		By: La Toya		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7177</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[La Toya]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Jun 2011 21:53:19 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I would like to clarify that when I referred to the choice of taking one&#039;s life I was referring to the choice of a young man who took his not long ago. His act was glorified by the community where he lived as something done by an enlightened hero and Avatar.

I have always been pro-life and I find glorifying suicide shocking. It is especially a bad example for other young people, who do not have enough experience and deep understanding. 

My comment came as a concern - being myself a parent. Subsequently I was sent a number of hate text messages and emails. Should I apologize for being concerned now?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I would like to clarify that when I referred to the choice of taking one&#8217;s life I was referring to the choice of a young man who took his not long ago. His act was glorified by the community where he lived as something done by an enlightened hero and Avatar.</p>
<p>I have always been pro-life and I find glorifying suicide shocking. It is especially a bad example for other young people, who do not have enough experience and deep understanding. </p>
<p>My comment came as a concern &#8211; being myself a parent. Subsequently I was sent a number of hate text messages and emails. Should I apologize for being concerned now?</p>
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		By: aurora		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7176</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[aurora]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Jun 2011 13:11:16 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[The fact that this post has come from someone in the teaching position is disturbing; the lack of fore- &#038; hind-sight about the acceptability of his own behavior is appalling &#038; appears to need timely intervention.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The fact that this post has come from someone in the teaching position is disturbing; the lack of fore- &amp; hind-sight about the acceptability of his own behavior is appalling &amp; appears to need timely intervention.</p>
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		By: La Toya		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7175</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[La Toya]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Jun 2011 01:27:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I have often been amused and surprised by the way people interpret poetry. It is like a latmus. It is usually a clear indication that many of us live in parallel realities. Rumi is such a good test for that! When it comes to the meat-market people and Rumi! Then you know... about so many assumptions, projections, superficial values and the games of the ego. It is a feast!

But what do you do then? Do you take your own life because you find the world too impure and unwholesome, or come and read the &quot;deep wisdom&quot; here, or just ignore it all and go back to the Love of the only Beloved?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have often been amused and surprised by the way people interpret poetry. It is like a latmus. It is usually a clear indication that many of us live in parallel realities. Rumi is such a good test for that! When it comes to the meat-market people and Rumi! Then you know&#8230; about so many assumptions, projections, superficial values and the games of the ego. It is a feast!</p>
<p>But what do you do then? Do you take your own life because you find the world too impure and unwholesome, or come and read the &#8220;deep wisdom&#8221; here, or just ignore it all and go back to the Love of the only Beloved?</p>
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		By: kshatriya		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7174</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[kshatriya]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 15:11:21 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[As far as I&#039;m concerned, Sarah has not yet come up with a belief that&#039;s worth believing.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As far as I&#8217;m concerned, Sarah has not yet come up with a belief that&#8217;s worth believing.</p>
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		By: sarah Palin		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7173</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[sarah Palin]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 14:40:35 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[This is the Deepak I long to hear.  Your wisdom and ability to heal this man&#039;s pain and put him on the right track is amazing.  Your recent comments about me show how incredible your mind is.  I must review my life.  I think I will become a cheap hindu swami like you and dispense empty platitudes about life instead of putting myself out in public and taking shots from asshats.  I won&#039;t make as much money, but I can pretend I am above it all.    Thanks Deepak!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is the Deepak I long to hear.  Your wisdom and ability to heal this man&#8217;s pain and put him on the right track is amazing.  Your recent comments about me show how incredible your mind is.  I must review my life.  I think I will become a cheap hindu swami like you and dispense empty platitudes about life instead of putting myself out in public and taking shots from asshats.  I won&#8217;t make as much money, but I can pretend I am above it all.    Thanks Deepak!</p>
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		By: Audrey		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Audrey]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 13:54:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I am always surprised to read these stories.The subject of this letter never learned - or was never taught - social skills. It&#039;s difficult to imagine how or why, but Deepak&#039;s honest and direct letter is just what he needed to hear. Something greater than the subject&#039;s ego moved him to reach out to Deepak, and I believe the response he got will catalyze a change that would otherwise have taken years - or maybe never happened. It just goes to show that no matter how under-developed our personalities are, there is always something inside us that knows where to point us so that we can be put straight. On some level, this man knew he was clearing the way for a deep change inside himself. Definitely.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am always surprised to read these stories.The subject of this letter never learned &#8211; or was never taught &#8211; social skills. It&#8217;s difficult to imagine how or why, but Deepak&#8217;s honest and direct letter is just what he needed to hear. Something greater than the subject&#8217;s ego moved him to reach out to Deepak, and I believe the response he got will catalyze a change that would otherwise have taken years &#8211; or maybe never happened. It just goes to show that no matter how under-developed our personalities are, there is always something inside us that knows where to point us so that we can be put straight. On some level, this man knew he was clearing the way for a deep change inside himself. Definitely.</p>
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		By: N2ition		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7171</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[N2ition]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 13:20:28 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Deepak&#039;s answer was correct in every way.  People with professional &quot;status&quot; have crossed the line from professional guidance and caring into the personal, and it&#039;s been damaging, even life destroying, for me.    I wasn&#039;t so fortunate to have a college administration support me, but that was 3 decades ago.  Times have changed.  It&#039;s hard to understand the level of vulnerability when a teacher, therapist, doctor, priest/guru/minister crosses the line from professional to personal, and the damage it can do to someone emotionally, and to the fabric of someone&#039;s life.  It&#039;s very complex, and often the violation is a lot more subtle with an edge of creepiness, even cruelty, than a text message.  

That said, like many people who are traumatized, I became very well informed about social issues.  So, I feel that I can respond to &quot;An american&quot;.  I do understand that many Americans feel the social fabric of Middle America, and the middle class,  is under attack from  values of intellectuals, foreigners, and people who aren&#039;t Christian.  The other half of the country feels under attack by people who maintain that belief.  Let&#039;s set that aside, and take an emotional look at who is really promoting the division, and for whose end.  I don&#039;t think you will find foreigners or people who aren&#039;t Christian attacking the middle class or promoting division.  And, I think that Deepak was trying to point out that once people actually experienced the world that Sara Palin&#039;s ideals would create, a world with the middle class, and Middle America, losing even more ground, that &quot;his brand&quot; would become a lot more attractive.

I&#039;ll have to let Deepak speak for himself here though, and let him explain his brand to you, but I am lucky enough to be able to sit in his audiences often.  And, I have a sense that he&#039;s trying to bring something different into the discussion.  Something healing.  

I guess I&#039;ll end by writing that I tried everything to heal from the damage that was done to me when a professional crossed the line.  Only by the grace of God I found meditation.  I was tremendously lucky that I have found parts of that mind that have informed me and have transcended to some unbelievable places.  Some of it I lost.  Some of it I retained.  I just wish I could find my way back to all the sensational parts of that experience.  It really does heal the person and heal the world.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Deepak&#8217;s answer was correct in every way.  People with professional &#8220;status&#8221; have crossed the line from professional guidance and caring into the personal, and it&#8217;s been damaging, even life destroying, for me.    I wasn&#8217;t so fortunate to have a college administration support me, but that was 3 decades ago.  Times have changed.  It&#8217;s hard to understand the level of vulnerability when a teacher, therapist, doctor, priest/guru/minister crosses the line from professional to personal, and the damage it can do to someone emotionally, and to the fabric of someone&#8217;s life.  It&#8217;s very complex, and often the violation is a lot more subtle with an edge of creepiness, even cruelty, than a text message.  </p>
<p>That said, like many people who are traumatized, I became very well informed about social issues.  So, I feel that I can respond to &#8220;An american&#8221;.  I do understand that many Americans feel the social fabric of Middle America, and the middle class,  is under attack from  values of intellectuals, foreigners, and people who aren&#8217;t Christian.  The other half of the country feels under attack by people who maintain that belief.  Let&#8217;s set that aside, and take an emotional look at who is really promoting the division, and for whose end.  I don&#8217;t think you will find foreigners or people who aren&#8217;t Christian attacking the middle class or promoting division.  And, I think that Deepak was trying to point out that once people actually experienced the world that Sara Palin&#8217;s ideals would create, a world with the middle class, and Middle America, losing even more ground, that &#8220;his brand&#8221; would become a lot more attractive.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll have to let Deepak speak for himself here though, and let him explain his brand to you, but I am lucky enough to be able to sit in his audiences often.  And, I have a sense that he&#8217;s trying to bring something different into the discussion.  Something healing.  </p>
<p>I guess I&#8217;ll end by writing that I tried everything to heal from the damage that was done to me when a professional crossed the line.  Only by the grace of God I found meditation.  I was tremendously lucky that I have found parts of that mind that have informed me and have transcended to some unbelievable places.  Some of it I lost.  Some of it I retained.  I just wish I could find my way back to all the sensational parts of that experience.  It really does heal the person and heal the world.</p>
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		By: Siddharth Mathur		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7170</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Siddharth Mathur]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 11:18:18 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Yes, the guy made a mistake but not as a teacher but as a person first. I don&#039;t agree with the idea that a teacher cannot date his/her student. But, proposing someone directly without knowing and any built-up of relationship (and that too via a text message) is just plain stupidity and shows lack of social awareness. It shows that the person lacks self-belief and is not brave enough (as he used the text message). Instead of proposal it should have started with a healthy and lively interaction. These many interactions could have then lead to better knowing and then a relationship. You got to make a person comfortable with you and make him/her like you first. &#039;Proposal&#039; is not a magic wand.

Secondly, I feel there was too much bashing from Deepak. If you did that mistake, that doesn&#039;t mean you totally socially inapt. Most people lack the aptitude, understand or awareness when it comes to dating/proposal. It comes with learning from experiences, learning to be yourself, learning to face rejection and not seek approval, having self-belief and not fear. You should start by interacting with new people, by making new friends. Make yourself more social. Go out and have fun. And last and defineltly not the least, start approching women, initiate conversation (it entails facing fear, anxiety, self-doubt... you will learn), learn to make connection with a person. Be patient and you will learn.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yes, the guy made a mistake but not as a teacher but as a person first. I don&#8217;t agree with the idea that a teacher cannot date his/her student. But, proposing someone directly without knowing and any built-up of relationship (and that too via a text message) is just plain stupidity and shows lack of social awareness. It shows that the person lacks self-belief and is not brave enough (as he used the text message). Instead of proposal it should have started with a healthy and lively interaction. These many interactions could have then lead to better knowing and then a relationship. You got to make a person comfortable with you and make him/her like you first. &#8216;Proposal&#8217; is not a magic wand.</p>
<p>Secondly, I feel there was too much bashing from Deepak. If you did that mistake, that doesn&#8217;t mean you totally socially inapt. Most people lack the aptitude, understand or awareness when it comes to dating/proposal. It comes with learning from experiences, learning to be yourself, learning to face rejection and not seek approval, having self-belief and not fear. You should start by interacting with new people, by making new friends. Make yourself more social. Go out and have fun. And last and defineltly not the least, start approching women, initiate conversation (it entails facing fear, anxiety, self-doubt&#8230; you will learn), learn to make connection with a person. Be patient and you will learn.</p>
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		By: An american		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7169</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[An american]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 04:14:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Its too bad Deepak hates christians and middle america, based on his palin rant, but on this topic he is correct....]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Its too bad Deepak hates christians and middle america, based on his palin rant, but on this topic he is correct&#8230;.</p>
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		By: Vaishali		</title>
		<link>https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/dealing-with-rejection/#comment-7168</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Vaishali]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jun 2011 03:57:03 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[My sympathiies with this person; As Deepak rightly pointed out you seriously lack social awareness; we cant really say this is ok, but better late than never; Deepak, i really salute you for the such an appropriate response.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My sympathiies with this person; As Deepak rightly pointed out you seriously lack social awareness; we cant really say this is ok, but better late than never; Deepak, i really salute you for the such an appropriate response.</p>
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