Comments on: Family Anxiety

By: Jennyq

Jennyq — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 12:47:25 +0000

Most of these comments say to remove/protect/seperate yourself from your family, but I ask didn’t our soul’s choose our families for the potential of spiritual growth? Should we be looking at these relationships and our responses to them as a reflection of where we need to grow ourselves?

By: gauri

gauri — Sat, 26 Feb 2011 14:46:05 +0000

I don’t if you can leave your own blood relations behind and can develop new relations so easily. It is very hard for me. I can tolerate all my brother’s bad behavior just because of he is my brother. I completely agree with Rajnish Saxena.

By: Mother Lightning

Mother Lightning — Sat, 26 Feb 2011 03:21:43 +0000

This is such *excellent advice, so important that if people were exposed to this sort of thinking in their teenage years, it could help to prevent deep misery in adulthood, rather than people going blindly through life due to these family conflicts, without a roadmap.

w/ love & peace always,
Mother Lightning
of[thepeacegarden.blogspot.com]

By: Rajnish Saxena

Rajnish Saxena — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 22:10:58 +0000

God Bless You!!!
The way I see here – the root cause of the problem is – relationship. How to relate yourself with the world (means it could be your family members, or friends, or colleagues etc.). If your assessment about other persons is correct, then you can relate yourself with those people nicely without any stress. Here in this situation, your relationship is purely based on the fact that you are son of your mother and you are brother of your sister. There could be a number of factors which are responsible for not allowing to create a proper relationship between your mother and sister, but the root cause still same i.e. these two people do not know – how to relate themseleves. For your problem, the solution is to elevate yourself by understanding the basic principles of life – Attach you loose, detach you gain. For example at the physical level, detach house has more value than the attached home (in general). Pl do your karma (action) with respect to your relationship with your mother and sister. Have faith in yourself. Things will never be same. World is constantly changing and I am sure that you will one day will solve the situation. Running away from situation is not the solution. Please keep the purpose of life is to serve and not to become selfish.
God Bless you!!!

By: Adrienne

Adrienne — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 18:17:01 +0000

It is right that you take good care of yourself and let your sister and mother deal with their own issues. You have the break the pattern that has developed in the family since childhood. It is a negative pattern. You do have to make your own family without them. It is very difficult but it will make you stronger as long as you don’t repeat the pattern with new people. Loving relationships are reciprocal. Manipulation is not love. Conflict comes when one tries to manipulate another. Let people be who they are and you go and be your best. We cannot change anyone else. It’s even difficult for us to change. But it can be done and many have already done it. You have a lot of give but it is not being appreciated in your family. Your brother is wise because he got away. It was for his sanity that he did that. You might want to join him then you will have each other and avoid the conflict of the others.

By: Rajendra Bhandari

Rajendra Bhandari — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 04:25:25 +0000

Dipakjee, Namste. Iam from India,Maharashtra{osmanabad)
Ihave read many books which you write.Ilike its very much
recently i read Ageless Body,Time less mind.I want ask to you sir is it translate in marathi or hindi? if it is then it is very better for all catageries to read and help for helthy life.thankyou very much.and sir Ilike to say that you are my rolmodel.

By: Humberto

Humberto — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 03:35:17 +0000

Hi Dr Chpra, i am fron México, i have read many books from you, i like them too much. I have a problem of anxiety, stress, depression, i drink rivotril and prozac, sometimes i have nevious attacks, or anxiety, i have fear about life, and i try to meditate. When do you write a book about anxiety, or about the nervious system, or about the mind control?, i know you have books who talks about that like magical mind-body, mind timeless, body ageless, but i would like that you write a book specific about the nervious, the stress. with all my afection.

Bob

By: Mary Frankos

Mary Frankos — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 21:03:25 +0000

Find compassion for yourself, your efforts to navigate this painful situation. When an whether you see your family, do this is small “doses”, respect your own real limits. Do make a new family, which is to say, gather around you those who nourish your soul. When you do see your family, take your imagined “shield” with you, be careful about displaying your vulnerabilities. Go home and refresh yourself with…friends, a great bath, a good sit….good luck, god bless.

By: Vera

Vera — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 18:28:12 +0000

Don’t expect this to be easy….children who grew up in families like these usually have learned to feel responsible for those in the family who refuse to behave responsibly…..in an effort to stabilize a family. When you are little, that is the greatest fear in the world….even the loss of a bad family is unthinkable when that is all you have.
You will need to release those ties, of course…..you probably already knew that instinctively….but it is hard and it is threatening. The more unpleasant the family dynamics, often the more secrecy is expected of the members, so we feel isolated without them….afraid that without them we will never feel that close to anyone else and will be basically alone in a profound way.

So, try to use the energy that is wasted on your family by investing in other relationships. MAKE A NEW FAMILY for yourself. Chances are good that your family will never change and will not allow you to change them…..any energy you spend there is for naught. Spend it more wisely…use it to invest in friendships that don’t drain you dry and leave you depressed, discouraged and in despair. You will not regret it, but it is sometimes hard. Do it anyway.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 18:25:27 +0000

ambious, happy, mindful is only the surface of who you are. Find the real you within, and bring your peace, love and happiness into your family.

All you need to do is to accept who you are and have peace within.

By: Debbie Bridge

Debbie Bridge — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 15:27:23 +0000

Agree.