Comments on: Family Strain

By: John

John — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 13:10:19 +0000

Answer TOUGH LOVE, Be bold, be strong, talk straight, pull together, ditch fear , ditch the guilt powerful positive INTENTION based in your truth and love,

By: vivian bagley

vivian bagley — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 01:50:53 +0000

what can you do ? I have a disabled son on S.S. disability who needs things from time to time and I buy them when I can, my husband says nothing but helps me pay for them I feel guilty but the man needs special things he can not afford most of the time.and I find a way to help when possible. This is his step-father and he lets me, when ever possible supply what I can ….This same man, my son, helped me years ago when I desperatly needed funds to run the house that we lived in .He worked part time and going to school, and studying when he could. so tit for tat I say

By: Jacqueline Williams

Jacqueline Williams — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 18:03:32 +0000

Instead of resenting why not sit down with your husband, look at your finances and decide together how much money to give him so you feel a part of the decision. Then let it go. Whenever resentment/fear/frustration enter your thinking discipline yourself to not allow those thoughts power.
Love is powerful just not easy sometimes.

By: Jacqueline Williams

Jacqueline Williams — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 18:01:15 +0000

Instead of resenting why not sit down with your husband, look at your finances and decide how together how much money to give him so you feel apart of the decision. Then let it go. Whenever resentment/fear/frustration enter your thinking discipline yourself to not allow those thoughts power.
Love is powerful just not easy sometimes.

By: Lee Ann

Lee Ann — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 08:37:01 +0000

His relationship with his son is not for you to judge,the only thing that springs from judgment is punishment and the only thing that springs from punishment are harsh and negative feelings. You don’t need those feelings for yourself , your husband or his son.

By: CS

CS — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 00:53:25 +0000

It is true we can never make people conform to our wishes even if they do seem to us practical. I learned this through trial and error. Then as I began to understand love more deeply, I mean love that is so deep you can’t even define it, when I got in touch with that, in touch with my soul, then It made it easy for me to now worry or be concerned with what others are doing…

By: Debbie Bridge

Debbie Bridge — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 00:11:08 +0000

I’ve seen this for myself through friends. Take Dr. Chopra’s advice. It is excellent.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 21:11:26 +0000

You have the “triangle” – Dr. Chopra dismantles the triangle for YOU – act on it for your own well-being. A suggestion – suggestion only that you could pose to your husband and his son is that to venture out for a part time position. There are associations private and govt. that help with evaluations and placement – they will help him “step” into and beyond his fears and get on with helping support himself. Dad won’t be here with the $ forever. A suggestion only; yet a step he can take with much support.

By: Declan

Declan — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 19:10:32 +0000

your husband needs to put you first and stop enabling his son

By: Marco

Marco — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 05:16:49 +0000

I would reccomend you read a book by Harriet B. Braiker called “Who is pulling your strings?”, how to break the cicle of manipulation and regain control of your life”.
You say, he says he’s been clean for five years. But unemployed for 7. So, maybe he has not psicologically recovered or maybe he got brain damage, or had congenitive brain damage since birth that proppelled him to use drugs. So it might be that you can not win this one without loosing yourself as a result of it. So, you decide… To live a healthy and sane life or get insane.
Live Brave!!!