Comments on: Finding a Partner

By: Libragirl1

Libragirl1 — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 20:16:15 +0000

Hello, this advice sounds wonderful. However, there has to be more to attracting my Husband than these simple suggestions. For the past year, I have been asking, visualizing, meditating, affirming, giving thanks for and praying to receive my God-created mate. I have released unhealthy relationships. I have released grudges and hurts from past relationships. I have healed and mended my relationship with my father. I exercise daily, eat clean food only. I walked to raise money to MS research. I am a devoted mother to my two children, in addition to taking a creative writing course and traveling to Washington D.C. to attend the annual Green Festival. In other words, I am doing or have done what all of the “experts” suggest. And what do I have to show for it? Nothing but a cold bed. I am extremely frustrated, especially as I watch my friends who have not put in any work on themselves find the loves of their lives. I know I should not compare myself to them, but how long am I supposed to continue to exert myself with no rewards???

By: shantihouse

shantihouse — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 22:29:27 +0000

Develop self awareness – this is the key to everything – learn to stand back and observe our “self” – we humans love to control everything – we can’t achieve this when we are so “into” everything – develop the skill of “standing back” and watching your own performance – our emotions can be too overpowering even when we think we have healed alas a certain situation – a certain event will have us re-acting in a self destructive way – and we are devastated as we thought we had “grown” out of this behavour – I’m not sure the past hurts really heal at the level of our emotions – but the awareness of our self and how we re-act can be worked upon – every moment we can take the opportunity to look and see what is happening – it’s not a chore – it actually brings a sense of peace – so I believe awareness of our self is the simplest thing we ever have to do – work on it and it will become an automatic practice in our lives – to me it’s like meditating and doing what we do in one go – it helps us refine our own self and also accept others – try it. Shantihouse oxoxox

By: V.VIJAYAMOHAN

V.VIJAYAMOHAN — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 06:25:03 +0000

High expectation in us about the life partner puts too much stress on the partner. Only disappointments will pile up in both for even flimsy reasons. Live life naturally and let the partner live his/her life likewise. If you love the partner sufficiently, it will get reciprocated . Bonds of relationship will develop and each partner will do his /her bit to cement the relationship. After all, every one needs that magical thing called LOVE.But, we get it amply, only when we give it amply.

By: richananda

richananda — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 23:31:12 +0000

All the advice above is very valuable and is coming from being rather than doing. I am hearing some people tell me that they do not waste time in relationships where their values differ so much and there is so much fear of commitments etc. So develop your intuitive sense when to get involved and when not to invest so much “long term” time and energy when your inner self knows it will not last. Perhaps diving timing for you is in store and the “perfect mate” is being attracted to you at the right time. Allow for infinite possibilities and live fully every day. Namaste!

By: One

One — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 11:06:44 +0000

When I stop looking, the answers come.

By: Milagros Crespo

Milagros Crespo — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 03:06:53 +0000

The Authentic Self is The Soul Made Visable!

By: Milagros Crespo

Milagros Crespo — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 03:05:24 +0000

Live in this moment, and attend to everything that is presented in this moment, live in the light and you shall attract it.

By: eturk

eturk — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 01:39:30 +0000

Indeed, we attract our reciprocal. Great reminder of the basic law from Deepak.

And remember, STOP looking. The dreaming of “the one” causes neediness, which actually makes one REPEL good suitors.

Just work on you, love you, be with you. If you don’t love yourself, enjoy being alone with yourself, no one else will.

So exercise, eat great food, heal old wounds, advance the spirit and mind. Radiate self love and health. Then you’ll attract someone of health.

A deeper danger: If you spend your life looking for “the one”, you’ll have practiced it so much, when you find them, the mind won’t know what to do. It will keep looking, so you’ll never be happy. Practice being with you. How you’d be once you have all the love you imagine. When they show up, you’ll get to keep practicing. This is why so many couples divorce. They focus so much on finding perfection, when they find the one, they won’t be perfect, so the mind continues it’s habitual pattern of dreaming.