Comments on: Leaving an abusive home https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/ Committed to Creating a Peaceful, Just, Sustainable, Healthy, and Joyful World. Sun, 20 Dec 2009 03:57:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Debbie Bridge https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4772 Sun, 20 Dec 2009 03:57:58 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4772 Whether to stay or to leave-neither will give you the peace you search for. Rather, with respect, allow both your Father and Mother to know in their hearts that you have grown up, emotionally matured and on equal footing with them in all ways.How do you do this? By realizing your place in this world and your purpose-and your purpose is not to be fearful.Your home environment will then change. Your parents will feel more secure that you are more secure. A Safe house.

]]> By: Kate https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4771 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:16:54 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4771 It would be good for you to go, and it would also be very good for you to get some emotional support as you go. Your father not only lives in your current home, he also lives in your head. Get help so you are not haunted. I know. I’ve been there. Good wishes to you.

]]> By: Jas https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4770 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 04:22:48 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4770 I am originally from India. As a child I visited many Indian Holy Men there. But so far I have found none other than Deepak to be the most insightful, caring, non- judgemental, knowledgeable and one without his own personal agenda. He truly is the Man of the Century. His teachings will serve humanity looong after his soul leaves his material body; which is actually non-material.

]]> By: Mark https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4769 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 03:30:14 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4769 What ever happened to prosecuting someone for assault? In my experience, many bullies (parents or otherwise) will back down when met with appropriate resistance. When you refuse to be fearful, you act from strength. Being “meek” doesn’t mean being a doormat or victim. Allowing unacceptable behavior serves nobody. Meeting it with appropriate resistance is a step toward eliminating it. Get away… yes, but don’t leave loved ones to be victimized. Take appropriate action.

]]> By: LinnieX https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4768 Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:48:18 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4768 hang in there, the hardest step is out the door.

i too had to leave a violent home – when i was 16. Leaving my little brother and mother there was the hardest thing i ever did. i had no idea what to expect and spent several years lost, but landed on my feet.

Good luck to you, and i urge you to be careful with the choices you make chosing your mate, far too often we wind up with men who emulate our father….

]]> By: Karen https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4767 Wed, 16 Dec 2009 08:15:23 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4767 Leave, now. I was in the same situation and stayed. I stayed because when I was 16 I threatened to kill him if he ever touched her again. While I was there he limited himself to verbal abuse. Once or twice I left and she was suddenly very “accident prone”. She has since passed away and I now believe she didn’t appreciate my staying to protect her. You have to look after yourself – don’t wait until its too late.

]]> By: Dr. Vaidyanathan https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4766 Wed, 16 Dec 2009 05:23:57 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4766 Deepak has once again made it look so simple when he says that staying back at home has not helped the mother one bit. In every stressful situation, one can make three choices—an action oriented one, where one takes some action, an emotion oriented one, where one changes one’s thinking pattern and carries on, or an acceptance oriented one, where one accepts the situation, or accepts the consequences of the actions one takes. The main problem with leaving home, apart from having to muster up enough courage and having to fend for oneself, is the guilt that is likely to haunt one for a long long time. If one can really trust in the will of God, then it becomes easy to accept our actions too, as His will, and be without guilt or shame.
Dr. Vaidyanathan, Mumbai.

]]> By: Justin https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4765 Wed, 16 Dec 2009 01:50:41 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4765 God, I love how much sense this advice makes.

]]> By: Gyanama https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/leaving-an-abusive-home/#comment-4764 Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:12:32 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=4806#comment-4764 The beauty of choice, is that we can always lift ourself out of any situation(be it done literally, mentally or both), that does not reflect what is in our heart and mind. And like Deepak states, become an example of courage for other individuals to do the same….It is true though as a child it may have seemed that you did not have much of a choice, but again God in His infinite wisdom is now showing you that you do have a choice…..Follow the goodness that is in your heart, and continue on your journey with choices that lead you all the way to complete freedom in the soul, where your courage has now banished all fear and made you eternally strong in the Spirit of God’s loving embrace …
Much Peace and Love,
Gyanama

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