Comments on: Losing Friendships

By: Katharine Holmes

Katharine Holmes — Thu, 02 Jun 2011 20:32:47 +0000

I totally relate to this! I really enjoy time on my own, as I find it gives me a place of nuture. I can’t be socialable all of the time because I find that I feel quite drained by all the small talk and putting on a social mask. But I do seem to put a lot of pressure on myself to go to more social events but the truth is I don’t really feel like it. I often compare myself to others who are always out and about being socialable and think I ‘should’ be doing that etc but in all honesty I’m happy in my own company and I’l happily see a couple of friends now and again.

By: julienb

julienb — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 15:19:24 +0000

I recently lost my father which started a spiritual movement in me, and during my mourning I must have changed because I got into a conflict with two of my oldest friends and I am no longer seeing any of them. I guess my growing awareness towards spirit and Being is clearing the way for new people to enter my life, so that I can learn a new lesson.

By: Janet Cooper

Janet Cooper — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:00:05 +0000

I just e-mailed Dr. Chopra but forgot to include my telephone number 717-490-6921. They say ask for what you want you might just get it. Hearing from Dr. Chopra would be a blessing!!!

By: Trish Knox

Trish Knox — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:20:42 +0000

I can relate to the joy of aloneness. I can also relate to a new sense of self-protection through boundaries that keep me from pleasing others and being manipulated. It’s as if time is shortened. I don’t have time for the ego games any more.

Spirit wants to shine and when it is blocked I make adjustments within myself and in the outer world. Inner law and order prevails and sometimes that does find me alone…with Nature…my best friend!

By: mieke

mieke — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:12:48 +0000

aloneness is the ability of being totally present on the Innernet.
The Internet is a means of expressing oneself to oneself 🙂

By: eturk

eturk — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:07:24 +0000

Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs came from research on real people. He found that Self-Actualized people tended to isolate more than others. They were not lonely however, or anti-social. They just experienced the joy of aloneness. They tended to choose carefully their associations and talk only with those seeking higher conversations, such as love, spirit, creative pursuits.

Most people are fighting loneliness and thus surround themselves with anyone or thing that can partially take that away. Aloneness is the deepest trust of our existence. It is meditation. Whether in a crowd or alone, there is peace. We fill ourselves up with love and then, when overflowing, go into the world to share that love.

By: Lanki

Lanki — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:19:11 +0000

What a coincidence.

I was thinking the same question about distancing old friendships. Deepak’s answer has helped me too.

By: Michael dillon

Michael dillon — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:52:33 +0000

it seems truth changes as we change. I was wondering what previous thoughts, beliefs, ideas or concepts you once believed to be true but now have changed?

By: Cristine

Cristine — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 01:34:29 +0000

I agree. My spirituality has changed and it’s harder to find friends who are not superficial or materialistic in the society we live in now.