Comments on: Pre-marriage Communication Problem

By: The Last Honest Guy

The Last Honest Guy — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 20:54:14 +0000

One thing to keep in mind is that if you’re having second thoughts about the whole relationship, that’s usually an indicator that you’re not ready to make this big step into marriage. My advice is to delay the wedding a year or two and buy yourself time in order to accurately make this life changing decision.

Realize that in this day and age marriage is a very difficult thing to handle and become successful at. With everything that goes around us every day in our society, it’s no surprise that fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. This doesn’t mean that it has to happen to you and a good way to avoid it is by doing everything in your power to make the most accurate decision possible when it comes to marriage. Start thinking outside the box and forget about the old traditional methods that used to work for people fifty years ago.

The reality is that we live in a different time and therefore we have to play by different rules. These rules might be hard to understand by our parents, grandparents or even older siblings but it shouldn’t matter to you. The truth is that marriage is a serious thing and it’s also something that should be given a lot of thought when it comes to making that decision. Know that marriage is a decision just like any other. It’s one that will change your life for ever but ultimately it should be handled the same way you would any other big decision in your life. Through knowledge, anticipation, analysis and common sense, you should be able to evaluate the choice of marriage and hopefully have a favorable outcome. Get the odds on your side. Fifty-fifty is not good enough and you can change this by doing things differently than the people who have failed at this.

By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 22:34:23 +0000

My favorite book on relationships is The Mastery of Love, by Don Miguel Ruiz (also wrote The Four Agreements)… Your primary relationship is with yourself… Every other relationship (as you experience and define it) is a reflection of your relationship with yourself… Your fiance’s troubled spirit is only about you if you make it so… offer your support and nurturing. If it turns out he is afraid to get married, it is not about you. His fear belongs to him.

By: InspiredAuthenticity

InspiredAuthenticity — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 22:20:32 +0000

Hi 24 Year Old,
I would advise that you listen to your parents with an open heart. Then read the book “Whom Not to Marry” written by Father Pat Connor. I wished I had known about this book during my engagement process (which was eventually called off).

Best of luck to you and your fiance. Hopefully, you guys can work it out.

Marriage is not a decision to be made lightly. Take your time to think things through!

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By: Lynette Ogle

Lynette Ogle — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 12:56:13 +0000

Hi Deepak,

Four months ago I was introduced to a gentleman that works in another country. As soon as I shook hands with him I felt a connection that opened a part of my heart. I am not a person that believes in love at first sight. Did this connection happen for a reason or is there something more to it. Can I describe it as a synchronisity or a coincidence.

Regards
Lynette
South Africa

By: Gita Khanna

Gita Khanna — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 07:29:55 +0000

I completely agree with the comment. What young people fail to understand is that “Age & experience does matter” ! If parents are not happy, then there is something about this alliance which is not good. Firstly the girl should consult her parents and try to understand what lies behind their discomfort regarding this alliance. Thereafter, if she feels her parents agree and suggest that she being this deep already with the boy anyways should now try have one candid straightforward conversation to understand what is the cause of his sudden changed behaviour. And for heavens sake, not fool herself or try and suppress her inner voice if it is saying to get out of this relationship. It is still not late. Once the knot is tied or alter is crossed, then it is too late for her own mental happiness and health as well as for the yet to be born children into such unsure thus messy marriage. Think beyond “flesh”. Think beyond 5-7 years. Think lifetime. But don’t overthink and kill a beautiful relationship as well. But let someone with experience & love in their heart for you second this opinion & say so, ie, what you have is “beautiful”

By: Richard

Richard — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 03:03:23 +0000

An Employer interviews a minimum of at least 50 applicants to find the best candidate for a job. At 24 years old, how many male friends have you met and known well? A girl friend/wife needs to want to please without expectations from partner. A boy friend/husband must also want to please without expectations from partner. Then only will love be bliss, mutual, strong, magnetic and long lasting. God Bless, Happily married for 35 years which feels like just yesterday and forecasting another 35 more years of joy. Richard

By: eturk

eturk — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 06:20:09 +0000

Probably good to listen to the parents. They love you and know you better than you know your self. Ask friends you trust with your life. Are you really right for each other, honestly? We lost so much when we turned our backs on our families. Trusting ourselves to make all decisions, but mostly, it is usually just our ego, our neediness making decisions.

I see too many divorces. Children living like pingpong balls because the parents just thought there were in love because the sex was good. Not considering 20-30-40 years together and all that means.

At only 24, what do we know about love. Do your unborn children a favor, with great love, and really ask yourself if it is love, sex, or neediness. Marriage do NOT fix a relationship that shouldn’t be. Bringing children doesn’t make real love happen where hormones controlled the mind.

Ask yourselves what your deepest purpose in being married would be and maybe this situation is spirit really helping guide you. Forcing things rarely turns out. If you do love each other, you can live without each other! That is love, not neediness. As you find your true souls, and if i is right, you will be drawn back together in love, not fear.

Save a child’s life. Really look at what divorce does to children. Think about an eternity together, not just 5 years or so.