Comments on: Recovery from child abuse https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/ Committed to Creating a Peaceful, Just, Sustainable, Healthy, and Joyful World. Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:58:35 +0000 hourly 1 By: prashant https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/#comment-4923 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:58:35 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=6536#comment-4923 Dear lady, your son is where I was years ago and I still am. I was 11 years old and in a hostel away from home. Believe me it will take a long time but, it will only be an investment with great returns for your son. I am 21 now and things like this can’t be forgotten. I have tried and failed. It is important in the first place to let your boy get a grip of the world. Spirituality helps and I am sure you must be giving him some inspiration there, but there is more. Never treat him like a special child. Treating him differently or over sympathizing will make him weak. Love him as you always loved, let him know nothing has changed. Though, the offender has been convicted, he must learn to forgive. FORGIVENESS is the key to be able to move on. At times he might be confused with feelings of hatred which he doesn’t know whom to place upon, as the offender has been punished. He might find negative ways of expressing his anger. Forgiving is painful but,a divine fruit which helps one face bitter things in life. Music helped me, any art form will help him. You must be cautious and closely monitor the company he stays in. Get him to read more and more, it will help him understand people and life as such. Lastly, patience is necessary, which I am sure, you do have as a mother. Best of luck for your son.

]]> By: Vidya https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/#comment-4922 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 19:14:47 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=6536#comment-4922 My love and support go toward both your son and you. Time is a great healer and the more your son expresses his anger without your expecations coming in the way, the better of he is. Be with him through this moments and the love will surely bring you both back together and strengthen your bond. My best wishes and prayers are with both of you.

]]> By: DE Taylor https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/#comment-4921 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:24:32 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=6536#comment-4921 All my love to you and your son. I have to say that the times of anger or turmoil are the times that you YOURSELF have to redouble your efforts on your own journey. This act is not selfish. You focusing on grace and wisdom in your journey is teaching your son about commitment and dedication to the unseen benevolent forces that guide us. I had to exercise this the other day. My husband said something very hurtful and then disappeared. Instead of collapsing into a heap I looked in the mirror and said YOU ARE OK. Then I took a long drive and focused on the lake, trees and sunshine. Your son is doing what he needs to do to get through this. The universe is AT ALL TIMES giving each of us the exact circumstances that we need. We can learn from those circumstances or stay stagnant. You are showing your son how to learn. Best to you.

]]> By: msjulie https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/#comment-4920 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:30:40 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=6536#comment-4920 sometimes taking care of another can mean you’re leaving the room or the house, connecting with your strength and peace and then rejoining the other person.
my love goes to you both.

]]> By: Gyanama https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/recovery-from-child-abuse/#comment-4919 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 03:26:00 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=6536#comment-4919 I know a young boy who saw his father shoot his brother- He was devastated. He hated his father. But I reminded him of the good things his father did and then taught him that his father did not fully know or understand his divine nature, and that is why that happened. Then I taught this little boy about who he really was and how God had made him. I taught him how to connect to the love he felt in his heart towards his father, and to see that as the real self of who both he and his father is…..The greatest healer is Love. The greatest teacher is love…Love is the true nature of all men… Mankind needs to re-learn and taught who they really are, as they have forgotten thier own inherent divine nature

Teach your son that he does not need to have a power struggle, There is only One True Power, and it is Good…It’s is the very good that your son is as you describe him. Focus on his divine nature and continue to teach him about that. He will learn that all the other things that have happened to him was because his perpetrator did not know his own soul…

The little boy I told you about in the above- Is now one of the most loving individuals I have ever known. He loves selflessly and understands others as he sees himself, no matter what mistakes they make, he loves them through it until finally they see it themselves-

Peace and Love,
Gyanama

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