Comments on: Social Isolation from Judging Others https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/ Committed to Creating a Peaceful, Just, Sustainable, Healthy, and Joyful World. Fri, 28 May 2010 18:53:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: M https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5338 Fri, 28 May 2010 18:53:49 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5338 In reply to satya.

I felt that I have experienced the same feelings with people’s behavior, in which I would expect them to treat me the same as I would treat them. If not, I would express my thoughts to essentially change their behavior. This had led to my own isolation. I’ve learned with experience that you cannot change anyone else’s behavior or maintain a certain level of expectation of others. And so I’ve decided to focus on myself and my life, rather than concern myself with others’ drama or behaviors. Its not worth your energy. Focus on yourself and don’t sweat the small stuff. Thanks Deepak for your insight.

]]> By: Stephane https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5337 Fri, 28 May 2010 02:42:49 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5337 In my opinion, the key is to avoid telling the other person that he or she’s done something wrong per se. But I do think telling him or her how I feel (especially if I feel hurt) is absolutely legitimate, not ego- motivated, nor judgmental. I think it’s the best way to avoid a conflict, while making sure both people have a chance to re-evaluate the whole situation and maybe realize they could have done things differently or that they didn’t have any good reasons to feel hurt or angry.

In order for this kind of situation to become a good opportunity to evolve and learn, it’s true we should’t judge or accuse, but I think it’s extremely important to communicate and express how we feel!!

Regards 🙂

]]> By: Walter Martin https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5336 Sun, 23 May 2010 16:40:23 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5336 What someone else does is not for you to judge. To judge is to say you know what is best for that person. You do not. Does anything you judge about someone else make it so, or does it even really matter what you think? To help anyone requires understanding, love, caring and to be completely nonjudgmental, otherwise you are not helping at all.

]]> By: satya https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5335 Fri, 21 May 2010 10:37:04 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5335 This does ring so true; however, when a friend recently left her marriage for another man, it proved very challenging to support her when I felt that her choices were misguided. I am struggling with compassion + empathy + truthfulness too. Especially as a woman with women friends who seem to want collusion in our dramas, rather than anything that resembles judgement. Does anyone know what I’m talking about???

]]> By: shireen https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5334 Thu, 20 May 2010 21:38:46 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5334 Very much helped me as well.. thank you Deepak.

]]> By: Cecy https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5333 Thu, 20 May 2010 16:44:16 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5333 any good books on “kindness and compasion”???

]]> By: mpalyekar https://choprafoundation.org/ask-deepak/social-isolation-from-judging-others/#comment-5332 Thu, 20 May 2010 07:01:59 +0000 http://deepakchopra.com/?p=13860#comment-5332 well said! It helped me too:)

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