Comments on: Unfeeling

By: gulmohar

gulmohar — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 01:53:04 +0000

I wonder though what detachment from being spiritually enlightened feels like. Do they feel emotions love, sadness grief? What’s the difference?

By: Elaine

Elaine — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 16:46:48 +0000

Once again…may I suggest “The Soul Healing Affirmations” by Dr. Chopra! It will blow you away. Too, altruism helps.

By: spiritchild

spiritchild — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 12:14:28 +0000

the very fact that you are pondering for answers means you are still attached to outcomes and not disconnected with things around you…counseling at this stage will help you tremendously…nothing wrong in talking your heart out to someone !!

By: Jeniffer

Jeniffer — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 06:51:21 +0000

I went through this about 5 years ago. I was coming of age or something and i realised that all my life i had never been true to myself. I realised I cried at funerals because it was expected of me, i laughed at jokes because it was expected of me to laugh at a funny joke, i made friends because it was expected of me to make friends. I realised that I did not know who i was, and why i did the things i did or reacted the way i reacted to any given situation. it was the transition from not living to expectations to living to the truth of who i am that got me into this state. But what I can say is there is definitely nothing wrong get to your own truth and all emotion comes back again. and you will find when you cry at a funeral it is not just grieving that you are doing, it has so much more meaning to you, that noone else can relate to. even when you react to any family news it is with so much revelation to you as opposed to just reacting instinctively. Ok i don’t know if i am saying it right because i don’t seem to have the right words but what i want to say is that they is nothing wrong with you, it should not be a cause for concern. Change what you need to change and you will become a better person. Do not rob yourself of the oppotunity to be healed by worrying about what is happening. Deepak I love you too much i thank you for allowing me to contribute on your posts. i feel it is such an honour. You are my mentor, i always thank God for you and your books.

By: Sandra Lee Aldis

Sandra Lee Aldis — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 05:23:52 +0000

The very fact that you’re recognizing your feelings whether it be too much or too little feeling is an indication that you are in touch with your feelings and so able to work with them. It may help you to go onto the Chopra site and order the free CD and do the first (Deepak’s meditation) every day for 10 days and see how you feel. I think you may notice a change. Then find a Primordial Sound Meditation Instructor and begin doing mantra meditation. It may change your life. Blessings and take good care of yourself.

By: kshatriya

kshatriya — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 23:12:11 +0000

Why do we have to face down our emotions? They are arrows of light, a whisper from eternity gently nudging us toward the experience of the silent witness. We can choose to immerse ourselves in the experience of the emotion and embrace it for what we learn from it. But there one day comes a point when we learn to detach.

I liken it to seeing the emotions as part of a flowing river, and standing on a bridge spanning the river to watch their movement on down the stream. It’s a nice view…

By: angie

angie — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 05:51:22 +0000

reading this helped me a lot as I often have faced this same problem. I will surely take to meditation to seek help.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 22:53:27 +0000

Even Good byes are Good!!

By: jeff

jeff — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 21:37:11 +0000

I bow to your wisdom and insight, the podium is all yours my dear…goodbye.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 16:43:19 +0000

Jeff,
Where does your statement leave room for the genuine monk or nun…..

death is not real for everyone….

dieing to experience is what I think you mean..but that is always happening in states and stages of consciousness- In Pure Consciousness there is no dieing-

No disrespect here but I sense a certain new age dogma in many of the individuals that offer comments….individuals not really speaking from within themselves but resounding Deepaks thoughts instead of thier own…But that’s OK too…

It’s all good and Its all God…

By: jeff

jeff — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 13:49:39 +0000

Meditating with a goal might not answer your riddle. Maybe meditation as part of a wholistic approach to health and peace of mind? Nutrition, exercise, social engagement, spiritual life, artistic self expression; all can be life enhansing, brain enhansing, health enhansing. Don’t be so anxious for your own death, now is the time to live. Expand and explore your world.

By: Corina

Corina — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 11:25:50 +0000

Then maybe it is really what Deepak said, you have a hard time expressing your feelings, apparently just with people your age… Maybe some further self analyzing what may have caused this, just with people your age, can help you. it’s possible that you feel that children, old people and animals cannot defend themselves so much as adults can and you sympathize with them easier… does all this affect your relationships? people say you are cold or is you that thinks this about yourself, and blame yourself? if you are happy and smiling all the time, i think you should be a pleasant person to have around. do you trust people, ever fall in love or things like this? i dont know, it appears at a first glance, that almost all of my ideas proved wrong. If you were always like that, even before your illness, maybe is just the way you are built (even if this doesnt stand for an explanation :)) ). If you didnt feel always like that you can go back see what was diffrent then. Well, I dont know if you want advice from us, as I know you asked Deepak, so I dont want to seem intrusive. I just give mere opinions…

By: anna

anna — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 02:52:00 +0000

Thank you.I am sensitive with children, old people and animals and it is with them I enjoy and make sure they are taken care of and are happy.With people my age I am ill at ease. I cannot express my feeling of love or any other sad emotion, although my parents were quite encouraging for me to do so. I’m generally smiling and happy all the time, rarely thinking of or missing things/people I don’t have. Maybe it’s just a mask. I don’t remember any incident in my childhood except a severe illness that nearly proved fatal.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 00:41:02 +0000

True healing comes when you “face down” negative or even so called barren emotions as having any power over you or anyone else,, and then “face up” to Love and compassion within your true being, and “face forward” with your true individuality and wholeness of live, lived in God/Good-E-motions….
To the one who asked the question?
You don’t have to wait out a healing and face anything but the God Truth- If you feel barren, empty of emotion or like you’re in a state of negative Nirvana, Turn on the light, you have that power right this very moment, use it-( the light your turn on, is your true understanding of your true being in God, and then act on it if you want to, remember God is love and man is the love expressed as God’s idea)…
Man is here to love one another-and love can be expressed in many beautiful ways and even in many simple pure ways-once you turn on the light inside yourself the expressing of love will come as a natural response from Grace-
Go Face to Face with Grace and Love!!!

By: G

Sun, 13 Feb 2011 00:40:19 +0000

Allowing the Spirit or the omnipresent power of divine love to bear witness to the truth is the ultimatum, and the healing is very often instantaneous.

By: Corina

Corina — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 21:37:22 +0000

If you read my post, please tell me what you think, I mean if you think you can relate in any way to what I said. i am learning in this moment about these kind of situations. i dont know if u are familiar with some theories, but, if u can relate to what i said, maybe it with help you read something in this respect. If you think it can helo you and you want, of course. take care!

By: Corina

Corina — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 21:28:12 +0000

I am wondering whether this detachment you say you experienced is not truly just a mask because actually you are very sensitive. I mean, isn’t it possible that you repressed your feelings and your grief so much in the past, maybe when you lost somebody (he died or left) or any other type of loss, in wuich you suffered so much that you prefered to hide deep inside your true feelings, your true nature, that now you feel a detachement that you cannot overpass? I would ask you if you always had this feeling of detachment, or it appeared in a particular moment in your life. can you identify that moment? With what you can relate it to? If you were always like this, as far you can remember, maybe your parents thought you not to express your feelings, not to cry. Was it alright to cry? Maybe something did happpen in the past, I would say rather in your childhood, and you dont remember. these are just mere hypothesis, but what you describe sounds for me (from what I read and the little experience I gained) like a kind of emotional blockage. I woder what is being continuosly blocked inside? you said you didnt cry when somebody died, this makes me think you have some unexperienced, unfinished mourning processes and need to release your fear of expressing (how Deepak said, are you afraid u might lose your control, do you remember ever doing that and then feel ashamed or any ohter way?), than release your angry (that can also be hidden inside), than your sadness. I would also ask you, you feel detached when it comes to sad things, do you also feel detached in enjoying things?

By: glee

glee — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 20:15:54 +0000

I kinda faced the same problem. I now feel pretty content.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 17:48:44 +0000

Both views are correct. In this human experience I would call this discernment. Knowing what to block and knowing what can’t ever be blocked, namely, Love itself..
Love is always free flowing and eternal and forever has us in its keeping, knowing this will rid one of any imagined blocks….
The Building blocks of love are the only true blocks innately nailed into consciousness….

By: John

John — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 15:41:11 +0000

Agree with Deepak,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I would like to add,,,,there is nothing wrong with you,,,brick walls are built to keep things in aswell as out,,,,it maybe possible that st sometime, you built an emmotional wall to stop someone, or some situation,from taking your energy,,you may have reenforced that wall over time with steel,,,,your energy has to get passed that to b expressed,,,,when crying at a film,,you are able to release ,respond to it,because you are detached,you have empathy,but the film never hurt you, ,,,,meditation can help to reduce that wall to rubble,,,,within meditation there are no judgements,If you can remember happy moments and dwell on them,,that will help,,and try not to critisise yourself,,it can be hard not to sometimes, but try patting yourself on the back,,,,self love ,always self love,,,,