Comments on: Unrequited Love

By: barbara young

barbara young — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 23:14:09 +0000

My grief about a long-ago love is entirely different. For seven years, I loved this man more than life itself. When he wanted us to get married, I started making up excuses, and when he left town to go to medical school, I started dating (inferior) men and dancing and drinking half the night. Then I would come in the house and vomit.

The man sent me telegrams, wanting to know what was wrong, what he could do. I did not answer or communicate further with him, the person I adored and even as an old woman, have never stopped adoring.

I did not feel I deserved him, and the idea of getting something that I, a formerly abused, neglected child, wanted, was overwhelming. How could I have such a thing?

I abandoned the love of my life cruelly and without explanation. I will never stop missing him, even as I know it’s ridiculous.

Yes, I got married later, to a man who was cruel. He represented what I knew from my childhood life. I stuck with it for 20 whole years, miserable, until I finally went for a divorce.

By: dm

dm — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 21:55:27 +0000

Based on the quote “first realize that the world is a reflection of your own self, then stop finding fault with the reflection.” What does that say about rape, murder, unrequited love, injustice, blatant diregard, greed, lies, deceit? All that is a reflection of me? and Deepak, you advise that in order to heal if you are suffering from experiencing unrequited love, ou will need time and the emotional support of family and friends. But what if you don’t have family and friends for support. And that your family has caused the most harm, chaos and confusion in your life?

By: trish knox

trish knox — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 17:22:10 +0000

Let the emotions move through you. Feel the grief deeply. And while you are in that process be grateful for this teacher in your life and the new lessons on your horizon. Your life is a fertile field and you the gardener. Plant new seeds and let new relationship grow within yourself and in your life.

By: Haratora

Haratora — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 21:40:20 +0000

Dont agonise over the past or worry about the future but simply live in the moment, someone gave me this advice when i had a broken heart, if it is hard to move on then just dont move on at all. Just be happy that you had a wonderful experiebce.
Dont be sad that it ended but be happy that it happened,,,,,lots of love and light to you

By: M

Tue, 12 Apr 2011 23:40:30 +0000

I overcame a situation like yours with prayers. It helped more than anything. Secondly, I found a beautiful puppy to love. This is simplistic, I know, but it made all the difference.

By: vivian bagley

vivian bagley — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:42:42 +0000

most of us have gone through this valley of pain and destitude….and it hurts deeply, but in the end , you do get over it and along comes someone who loves you as deeply as you do them……dont give up, live each day as it comes and a new life will appear…..you may never forget the “dear one” completley but you can love again …been ther, done that…got the tee shirts.

By: katrina desiree

katrina desiree — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 18:52:04 +0000

Yes, thanks for the courage you have that allows you the rigorous honesty in expression here. Awareness and self reflection along with honest feelings and communication will heal you. Journal your path as well.
Also an innate understanding of Love.
LOVE IS THE GREATEST THOUGHT IN THE UNIVERSE.
Yes, love is pure potentiality. Love is energy, always expanding. Love is physical form and physical matter. Love is the mother of polar opposites in our world.

Want to (re)-capture Love? The spiritual math is absolute.

It only takes an outstretched hand.

Recapture love. It is very simple.

An outstretched hand. And an open heart.

It is the greatest thought of the Universe.

Our Divine Birthright.

By: Robert S.

Robert S. — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 16:43:14 +0000

Transcend the ego’s favorite fault to look outside yourself to be completed by another person. This you must accept initially that all love comes from within yourself and not outside.
Love yourself completely and you are healed. R.

By: Kat Vitulano

Kat Vitulano — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:36:18 +0000

Truth: This is a good sign, to have a broken heart. It means we have tried for something. ~ elizabeth gilbert

By: kiki

kiki — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 17:19:45 +0000

Dearest one- I am blessed by your posting. I too just was released from a love that I wanted to enjoy forever so, your pain is my pain and your posting this was just the coincidence and synchro destiny Deepak has taught us about. I will send you love and light and pray the universe will bring you someone that will love you beyond what you can even imagine! Blessings Always!

By: Brian Downey

Brian Downey — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 17:08:09 +0000

Years ago I went through a breakup and it was very difficult. Over time there was healing. One thing that I began to realize is that I was lucky to have the opportunity to spend ten years with that person and they with me which lead me to change my perspective from believing that I had lost someone to realizing that I had actually gained something by having the experience in the first place. If there was passion and growth then nothing was lost. Some people spend years together and never have any of that. Love & Healing to you. Brian

By: Mona

Mona — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 13:34:26 +0000

So many people go through what you’re going through. It’s completely normal to feel grief over unrequited love, and find it hard to move on. Don’t ever admonish yourself for finding this hard to get over. It’s a sign you have a big heart, that you’re able to love someone so deeply.

The main thing is, time will ease your pain. You’ll find rest as time passes. Be kind to yourself, and know that, just because this person doesn’t love you, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to be loved. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. You’re fine, as you are. Love yourself. Take time to grieve – it’s ok if you need a long time. We can’t criticize ourselves for feeling how we feel. All we can do is try to cope with it.

By: Daniel

Daniel — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 02:29:54 +0000

At the dawn of each day,
look at your reflection,
the eyes of your beloved,
or those of a child

If the glass is cracked,
and love is distant,
close your eyes,
let your heart be your guide

Reawaken with light,
and gladness in your soul,
a shining shard of broken glass,
holds more truth than a polished mirror.

Love to you, from within. xo

By: G

Fri, 08 Apr 2011 02:06:47 +0000

Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.
Helen Keller