By: anne

anne — Sun, 27 Apr 2014 07:36:00 +0000

I had a difficult upbringing and thought gaining a great career and earning lots of money was the answer to my feeling of not being happy. It wasn’t so I started looking for the answer to why I am who I am, seeking a God that wasn’t a human invention, or a God made in the likeness of man. It has been an interesting journey. I have some answers now that seem to fit for me. Gaining an intellectual understanding that my core beliefs about myself, others and the wider world was the starting point. Challenging my thoughts about these three headings has been a much harder, which can also be exhausting. However, I absolutely know it has been the right way to help myself feel better about myself and to feel better, strangely, about others. The reason for it changing my feelings about and towards others is that I accept that it is my wrong thinking; that generally I am projecting on to them when I feel bad about something, blaming them for my belief that they need to be different for me to be happy. Accepting that I need to change my way of thinking has been hard, BUT incredibly liberating. Now my happiness is down to me. I feel happy just knowing that! I do have to remind myself every day still, when I find myself seeing a situation from my old way of thinking. An example for you. I have a brother, well three actually and was thinking about popping in to see him and his wife and children, but my old thought was that he wouldn’t be pleased to see me, that I was bothering him. However I chose to test out that belief, popped in to see him and he was thrilled to see me! So the lesson for me on my path to find happiness is to challenge my thoughts (beliefs) and test them out. It can be scary, but like the bogeyman when we were children, it is only me scaring me with my thoughts and my own fear projected on to someone else. Just knowing that makes me happy! Anne

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