Comments on: Contemplating Suicide

By: Tracey

Tracey — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 04:01:16 +0000

My heart ached when reading your post. I pray that you have found the help that you deserve. My brother took his own life in February 2010, leaving behind two beautiful, tiny children and a family that feels as if we will never move on in life without him. We are heartsick. We have guilt and regrets, we are angry and sad. But most of all, we miss him with an intensity that keeps growing stronger with each passing day. I do pray for you, that you will read these responses and realize how precious you are.

By: simone

simone — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:23:08 +0000

My mother just died two months ago. She was ill and went to see her docter when it was too late. She could not be helped anymore. She was living under great stress and fear.
To me the greatest sadness in her passing is that ahe felt that there was no hope for her, no hope for change, love, happiness. Her decision to go to the docter in such a late stage -to me- was a form of suicide. We found notes in her house where she writes of the excruciating pain she is suffering months before she went to see the docter.
The events in the last stages of her life proved her wrong, but then it already was too late.
I am grateful for her life and spirit, I am sad over her despair in life and her death and pain. I find it terrible that we were not allowed into her heart and mind in order to help her see and find a different way. Please find help. Much love.

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 17:06:45 +0000

Good luck on your journey. The words I like to think of in bad times are ‘This too shall pass’. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I study astrology and this year there are some of the most difficult planetary aspect for decades. If they are hitting off your personal planets, you will be feeling it big time. But it will pass! In time you may see the gift in it all. Love, Mary

By: Jupiter Wilson

Jupiter Wilson — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 08:44:51 +0000

Please do not tell someone who is in pain, that committing suicide is a selfish act. This is not the time to be judgmental.
Below I have copied and pasted from my sister’s book. who died at 44 of illness after struggling all her life, and attempting suicide in her 20s:

“Suicide is all the more tragic because
That soul is fighting against overwhelming odds.
And it has lost sight of
Its purpose on earth.

When everything goes wrong
And the best of intentions is twisted,
When everything you gave your life to
Means nothing anymore,

The thought of giving it all up
And bidding goodbye,
Is too comforting and too good to resist. STOP.

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When all the help you have given and the
unselfish caring for others has not made
Life
Worth living,
And you ache with longing
To have been loved and
Understood,
As you have loved
And understood others.

The thought of giving it all up and bidding goodbye
Is yet again, too comforting and too good to resist.
STOP.

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You cannot and must not give in,
However heart-wrenching life may seem to be.

Because you do not want to have to face
These painful situations again.
Yet there is ALWAYS
The light, at the end of every tunnel.

If you take your own life, whatever the reasons,
Your spirit, on death,
Will anguish more,
And it will take eons,
For you to be able to forgive yourself
For what you have done
Against the divine nature of things.

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Whatever happens in life, as in the serenity prayer
Accept what you cannot change,
Change what you can,
Trust in your self to know the difference
And act accordingly.

If you ever wonder if life is worth living,
Do not dwell on it,
Because you have to live through this life,
As it is part of the divine plan, part of the greater scheme of things.

Once you reach rock bottom, the only way is up.”

May the Guardians who led her to enlightenment lead you also.

By: suz

suz — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 07:49:25 +0000

See the film WHAT DREAMS MAY COME with Robin Williams and that will give you another reason why NOT to commit suicide…..

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 03:29:53 +0000

You should follow Deepak’s advice. I have felt suicidal on and off for the past couple of years. People who have not experienced drepression do not understand. Please be strong and patient, if you ask your friends and family for help they will see you through. Do not give up, there is a better life ahead.

By: Geoff Snow

Geoff Snow — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 01:40:45 +0000

Thoughts of suicide are not selfish. You are feeling real things. The urge to end it all is the result of a dysfunctional mind. I speak from experience. Try to hang on until you get well, and pursue wellness with whatever energy you can. Best wishes.

By: Eturk

Eturk — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 00:37:49 +0000

I know from experience what the mind can trick us into thinking at this dark hour. To think people are better off is to think we are a harm to the world. We are such caring beings, we don’t want to harm anyone, so the mind does this weird game. Do NOT trust the mind!

Consider when you first thought you were a harm to anyone, to the world. Trace back that misunderstanding. Maybe a parent, teacher, someone said this to you? It may be surfacing now and not really about your current situation.

Notice that, if you are thinking people are better off, you actually really care about people, the world. Notice how much love there is within you! Let it out! Check with your counselor about the misunderstanding you got long ago that you were any harm. Those people were is so much pain, they were not nice to you, and gave you the wrong impression of beautiful loving you. You love people, how could anyone be better off without you?

Also, meditation would be awesome along with counseling. Not meditation to relax but meditation to watch the mind do it’s nonsense and separate from it. Vipassana is great for this. There are free 10-day retreats all around the world. The mind fluctuates, full of nonsense such as this. Learn to watch it do it’s dance, like crazy weather, so you can feel your true essence, which is love.

By: Malabika Shaw

Malabika Shaw — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 23:01:42 +0000

Boy, suicide accumulates such negative karma that it takes lifetimes to clear — so I have learned from Spiritual Response Therapy. I agree with Gyanama too. Get someone to help you love yourself as an innocent child of God and release all self judgments. It’s the only way to heal. Love and God Bless,
Malabika

By: Charles Rogers

Charles Rogers — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:51:01 +0000

What do you do when the person does not trust counslers intentions or agendas? Namaste

By: kawal

kawal — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:11:58 +0000

I don’t know what circumstances are putting you through his situatation either you have left it too let to mend your circumstances or what ! You know It , but so many of there go through this condition at a time in life ! Be strong do meditation Read some books like monk who sold his ferrari +the Seceret etc

By: michael k

michael k — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:09:44 +0000

yes, listen to Deepak, my cousin hung himself in Dec. It was like he set off an IED in the middle of the family. No matter your reasons it will leave a legacy in your family that could last generations. No letter left behind will ever be good enough to explain it. Finally, my uncle, the father of my cousin, was dead three month later from cancer diagnost days after his son’s funeral. The consequences are unimaginable now. But if you kill yourself you will leave a wound in everyone you ever met or knew because they’ll wonder why? No matter how you try to explain it. The shock for me wasn’t realized emotionally until after my uncle’s death and while at the grave site where his son was also buried, it was horrible seeing the still fresh ground and the super small plack with my cousins name. There was no honor to him who did this to himself.

By: Karen S

Karen S — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 21:49:55 +0000

My friends son committed suicide, the night he did my friend died inside, her eyes have lost all sparkle, she has not been the same, there is a sadness in her voice. The people you leave behind die when you do PLEASE do as Deepak Says and seek help.

By: Mary Angela

Mary Angela — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 21:47:58 +0000

Definitely follow Deepak Chopra’s advice and speak with a professional counselor about what you are experiencing. Also, maybe you have family members who could help with the care of your children while you work through this. It is good that you have reached out for help. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 19:16:07 +0000

In reply to jane. Although counseling is needed for someone who is having suicidal thoughts, I really do not feel it is fair to call them selfish. Yes their suicide would cause a lot of pain and heartache, but you do not know what has brought some people to feel that this is their only option left. By this point for most their is so much pain inside it may be a day to day struggle. The last thing they need is to be called selfish. Maybe talking to them with kinder words and helping them realize how much they would be missed and helping them to find oppurtunities to get could be a better option.

By: Teacher

Teacher — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 17:18:40 +0000

Suicide is not a death. There is no real death. Your awareness,the “thing -and it is not a thing” noticing those thoughts is you. Your thoughts of such an event, is but what some call the ego (the human mind)trying to find a solution to the problems that it is perceiving it has. The human mind creates problems, then wants to work on solutions, so that it has something to do. It s a tool.
Have you ever noticed at night, as you lay down and try to sleep, it keeps on?
Have you EVER been able to find the “OFF SWITCH”. The “Source Of All That Is”, is not making mistakes in your life. If you are in doubt about this, try and stop breathing…
ALLOW LIFE “THE SOURCE OF ALL THAT IS, to JUST BE..
The Calm – Follows The Storm…Happiness does not exist without Sadness. If there was only happiness in the world and someone ask you “Are You Happy”? You would have to say Happy?, what is that? Take a walk in a park, or in the woods and notice the perfection of nature. There are no mistakes, nor is what you are experiencing a mistake. There is a shift in your human consciousness taking place, AND YOU ARE BLESSED TO BE REACHING A LEVEL OF SUFFERRING THAT WILL HELP YOU MAKE THIS SHIFT. Hang on, because if you can, you will awaken to the greatest gift THAT THE WORLD HAS TO OFFER you, your wife and your children. Counceling, drugs, therapy, all of that, will keep you stuck insuffering. If you do not, you will be given another chance. The Christ, the man named Jesus, tried to tell us of this truth. He actually demonstrated this for us to learn from. The perceived self, the human mind,a tool that was suppose to be used and put down when not needed, has taken you over you. The natural advice is TO GO GET HELP. What I point to, IS FEEL THE SUFFERING, STAY WITH WHAT LIFE IS DEMONSTRATING, AND JUST SEE WHAT HAPPENS. It may seem unbearable at times, but if life does not have you stop beathing, just hang on, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. “THE SECRET OF LIFE, IS TO DIE, BEFORE YOU DIE”. In fairness to your family and children, wait for for death, before you die…..There is only one truth, and you have just been given the secret of life…….As you go through this, hold your children in your arms, and feel the Love that comes from within them, because they are really there to help you through this. Do not walk away from their help, or others will have to help you again…

By: Gyanama

Gyanama — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:40:05 +0000

When we leave this human life experience all that we can take with us, is the understanding that we have now.
What wants to die is your belief in an unhappy powerless life. That is the only thing that can die, for in Truth you are Life itself individualized, and life can never die…

The divine plan is to leave this life in joyful fulfillment and be free to manifest the joy of the soul wherever you are, be it here or another plane of existance

Realize that there is absolutely no power in “effect” and that each and every moment is new. Change your thought now from a belief in unhappiness and powerlessness to an understanding in thought, that you are a beautiful idea of God and that God Good is from here on in expressing and living through you. Never mind about what others may say or do, just love them as you continue to love yourself….You are beautiful, and wonderful and this is the Truth about You….Life the beauty, live the wonder and be full in your God given joy….Right Now, the old belief of a painful life in you is dead forever, and you can live now in the eternal joy of the soul…

Open yourself wide and let the imprisoned splendor of God life flow through you…

I love you as myself
Gyanama

By: richard

richard — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:34:25 +0000

Your death will set others up for a life time of pain
that can not be good for your Karma. Love and goodness is here already you can shift (with help) to embrace the blessings that life has to offer…life is challenging and sometimes unbearable at times for all of us. Just hold on and know you are loved.

By: Connie

Connie — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 12:20:07 +0000

I understand that we can become so unhappy that we are blinded by the pain to the point of not seeing the simple joy if being present now. You seem to be going this alone, when it would be better to seek the help & support you need as you go through this diffucult & confusing time. Your family will not be better off by you making such a permanent decision. You are wise to reach out to Deepak! I wish you well

By: Debbie Bridge

Debbie Bridge — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 04:44:05 +0000

Continue reaching out and sharing your feelings. There are many that relate. We can all help each other.

By: jane

jane — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 04:24:07 +0000

I agree with Mr.Chopra ,you need some counseling. I think , it’s so selfish that you commit suicide, if you die , you think your problem will go away, how about if in the other side more problem you will get because of it, isn’t it scary, because life and dead still mistery.