Follow Desire or Be Without Desire

I`m 46 years old and try to follow a conscious, spiritual path since my youth. There are different ways and different traditions and I was able to find my way according to my heart. Nevertheless there is one question I couldn’t find a satisfying answer till now. Teachers say for real happiness you need to be without wishes to realize deepest fulfillment and enlightenment, other teachers say for real happiness learn to fulfill the wishes of your heart and to trust the richness of life. I feel wisdom in both opinions and feel attracted by both ways, but I cannot connect them…What is your opinion? Thank you!