Searching for Soulmates

Recently I’ve begun re-examining the way I look at life, and this led me to end a 5 year relationship that I realized was going nowhere, and return to college. In doing this, I returned to the same college I had been academically dismissed from 5 years ago. Recently I ran into someone that I always felt I had a deep connection with, and I have the feeling he might be “the one.” I’m not sure if the feeling is mutual, but this has led me to ask: is it possible to choose your soul mate or influence their feelings about you? How do you know if you’ve met your soul mate?