Since my childhood, I want to earn name, fame, recognition and a sense of an important person. Therefore I want that my every demand must be carried out by other people. This is not possible every time. Therefore, when someone does not follow my dictates, I get angry. I snap my all ties with that person. It has resulted in the fact that I am a lonely person now. I have very few friends now. Also I have bad relations with my parents. Is it necessary to change when other people don’t change for you? Why always I had to adjust? Adjusting means defeat to me. Should I always compromise my desires for losing only? Life does not seemed complete and fulfilled without the desires being fulfilled. Plz help me.

As my very elderly parents come closer to the time they will pass over, I have struggled with a shocking sense of abandonment. This doesn’t make sense as I am in my fifties, married and have a full life of my own. When I was a child I also hated to be left alone and now this has re-surfaced. I dread being without my parents. I didn’t understand why, until numerous, clear dreams occurred which were more like memories. It seems that in another life, possibly the last one, my parents were killed in some sort of war or sickness. I was a very small child and I was left alone—-then put into a huge, cold, forlorn sort of place made of stone, in an isolated area. I was neglected and unloved in this place, always alone, and I believe I died there in that state. Obviously I was then re-born with this inherited memory. My question is, and I desperately need your advice, is how do I heal this old memory which I am still holding on to? How do I do it? It comes out in my dreams and affects my life now all the time. I am terrified of losing my parents—-and their time cannot be that far away. I would appreciate your answer very, very much. Thank you, Deepak. Rebecca.