I saw your appearance on Ellen early in the New Year. You mentioned embracing uncertainty as a focus for this year. Could you speak more about this? More specifically, I have been living abroad for seven years and have been trying to deal with uncertainty since last July when my teaching contract was not renewed. Since then I thought I could work privately. In the fall it seemed as if I was riding a wave of uncertainty and was balancing my way through. I have never surfed before in my life, but it sure felt good at times. After spending the Christmas holiday at home and returning in the New Year I have not been able to get back on that pseudo-surf board to ride those waves once again. I feel rather lost and overwhelmed by the uncertainty that surrounds me. What are somethings I can do to embrace uncertainty and find my purpose again? Sending you a big hug and my best wishes.

Right now I’m reading “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” and I’m having a little trouble understanding a portion that for the most part seems to make a great deal. In the chapter “Law of Intention and Desire” shortly before the applying section, one of the ideas embellished is to “release” one’s intentions and desires in the gap. I think I understand most of what is being inferred, however the “release” wordage has me a little confused on the specifics of what is being requested of me. Could you clear this up? And if this actually reaches Chopra, than thank you so much for your contributions to mankind, from what I’ve read of your work, not a great deal but some, I think what you say is wonderful.

I am feeling so lost… so confused. I have read several books of yours, of Eckardt Tolle, W. Dyer’s, and many more on personal growth, and spiritual development. As matter of fact, as I am reading (listening on CDs, I am blind), I understand what you mean, sometimes on a very, very deep level. I really am trying just to be, and have no labels, no names, no stories, no judgement. To the point that lately I started feeling as if I am crazy… maybe it is my ego trying to struggle to stay alive, I don’t know. Though I have moments of panic and chaos, and I cannot seem to ground myself.

I am in a marriage where I now realize that I entered the relationship almost 6 years ago for comfort, and because we both wanted a partner, not for love. Now, that I am starting to understand how just to be, how to simply let someone be… I am realizing that I have never seen my husband, and I don’t mean visually. We are separating in fact, because I decided that I need to be alone… mostly because I am so terrified of being alone.

My life long dream is to write books that help people, and I know that this creativity is pressuring me from the inside. I am already involved in some activities that are helping me tremendously, like training in the Martial Arts of Aikido as well as practice Yoga, volunteering on the local Crisis lines… and yet, most of the time I feel as if I want to, need to do something even more. Something that can really help me to express something inside, and of course, to better myself. I am now very happy that almost 10 years ago I have lost my eye sight due to diabetes. It is because I can’t see, why I feel like I can see inside people, and why I seem to be able to help people on the Crisis lines.

I am very confused with my relationship as well. I can be a very peaceful, loving, kind person, and I really am. And I am finding it hard most of the time to love my husband. I realize that I have resentments for him… but how do I let go of them?

In fact I have done something that I am not proud of, even ashamed of. I have betrayed him with an old friend of mine. My husband is a wonderful person, with many really amazing and beautiful qualities. Though I have to admit, he is unconscious, and very rarely does he see clearly what he is doing, or why he is doing them. He acts out of emotions, and he is struggling with road rage, anger outbursts, mostly over small things.

I know I need to take myself out of this situation, because I need to be honest, I need to speak the truth… and see, I feel so lost, that I don’t even know what my question really is.

Please can you give me your advice—-I am very troubled. Last December my mother became very ill with a stroke. It was a huge shock ans she is now in a nursing home after massive organization on my husband and my part. My father is 86 and wants to stay in the old family house . He will never be able to manage long term but has a cat and wants to stay put. He is almost harder to help than mum because he denies he needs help, then forgets whether he has eaten, whether he has taken his pills, and where he has put his wallet. I am divided between mum and dad, so much so that I actually feel sick with exhaustion and cannot even sleep. However, I love them and want to do all I can. My huge problem is my sister. She came out from New Zealand for three weeks at the start of all this, then basically packed her bags and went home because she couldn’t cope with it. She hardly saw mum and did nothing in dads’ house when she was there—he said she read a book. When she left, there were no meals cooked for him. no washing done, no cleaning. She did nothing. Because of this and her laziness and cold attitude, I had a lot of fights with her. I apologised as I didn’t want a rift and she said everything was fine. That was a month ago and she hasn’t phoned me —or mum—-since then. Her husband phones and says she doesn’t want to talk to me. And gets him to do all the asking. I wrote my sister a long e-mail saying there was no reason for her to be upset, she did a good job etc.   Even tho I don’t mean it, I sent it to calm any troubled waters. Her husband rang again and said my sister “will think about” whether she will answer me or not. She hasn’t.
I don’t know how to cope with her horrible ,self-centred attitude. How can I get it out of my head? I really can’t sleep because of her and I need to be rested as my parents are a full time commitment.  She shocks me deeply. Also, I have done all the hard, hard work and she wants to know all the details of mum’s home so she can ring and have the same respect at the home as I have—–and she has not only done nothing, but added to my grief and worry. Is this just my ego? Or am I right to feel so deeply hurt and angry about it all? What is your advice, please Deepak. Will you help me please?

If everything is as it should be, what is, is, (Seven Spiritual Laws of Success), was Nazi German SUPPOSED to happen? Are all the horrors of life SUPPOSED to be? I am confused. I cannot reconcile Hitler’s Germany as something that was supposed to be because ” the universe is as it is” and that’s all there is to it. Can you please address this? I struggle with this a lot. *( Deepak I saw you  at Mile Hi Church last year or the year before and loved your blending physics with metaphysics and philosophy. Absolutely MEZMERIZED. I have found the need to use empirical information to get to universal spirit). Thank you for you attention to my question. I desperately need to have this addressed.