Father Issues

I seem to have father issues..I am sure its set some limits on my life…..my dad is 80 I am 56….I’ve asked my dad to “connect and relate” with me, to hear me correctly, to allow common ground and understanding and to join the vision……….he seems unwilling or unable to do any of that….saying things like i have more important things to do….we email a lot but its mostly fighting or him twisting what i think are good normal intentions and desires to be heard understood and feel loved(i do have lots of other loving friends)…. he mostly seeks to avoid or be a void….and this is years of this….any insight? Thanks