How Do I Improve My Body Image?

In this day and age of “looking sexy” or “hot” … I have a very hard time with self-acceptance and body image.  I hear of people who go for cosmetic surgery, because ideally we perceive what is not “normal” or “acceptable”.  So we short change ourselves, comparing ourselves to what the media and pornography says is good looking or pretty.

I am a 44 year old woman who is very insecure about her genitalia, thus my mind obsesses about it , which ruins my days and nights thinking I am inadequate because I do not measure up to what is beautiful … especially from a man’s point of view.  My question.. how can I get over myself and just accept my body for who I am?  I struggle with body image on a daily basis, I criticize and judge myself constantly.  I really look forward to your answer.