When You Help Yourself, Which Self Are You Helping?

Americans are great believers in self-help, and with good reason. There are more tools for personal growth today than ever before. Books, seminars, weekend workshops, and support groups of all kinds flourish in abundance. Cynics decry this as a symptom of narcissism, the navel-gazing of the Me Generation. Actually, self-help spans all generations, and according to studies, around 75% of people who improve their psychological state do so, not with a therapist’s help, but by themselves. (more…)

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The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers. -Deepak Chopra

Three Month Marriage

I have been reading your book ‘The Path to Love’ and it has helped me understand myself a lot better. I realize the importance of the spiritual perspective of the marriage. I was able to identify areas where I was lacking as a partner. I am going through divorce from a 3 month marriage. My soon-to-be ex-wife left me because I could not meet her expectations of keeping her happy. Even though when I requested her to go for marriage counseling she refused and surprised me with sending divorce papers in mail. Obviously it left me devastated. I then started reading Eckhart Tolle and your books. I am doing much better emotionally and physically now compared to what I was couple of months ago. But I still find anger and resentment in my heart towards her and her family. I know that it is my ego which is making me feel that way, but I am finding it difficult to get past it. There are days when I feel sorry for her, because I realize that she is driven by her ego. But the days when I
receive or have to send legal papers or I get an email from her, it disturbs me and makes me angry. I never wanted to be in this position, I was willing to do everything to save my marriage but she refused to even acknowledge my efforts.
I would like to know, how can I train myself to not let anger control me and more importantly how to forgive her.