I`m 46 years old and try to follow a conscious, spiritual path since my youth. There are different ways and different traditions and I was able to find my way according to my heart. Nevertheless there is one question I couldn’t find a satisfying answer till now. Teachers say for real happiness you need to be without wishes to realize deepest fulfillment and enlightenment, other teachers say for real happiness learn to fulfill the wishes of your heart and to trust the richness of life. I feel wisdom in both opinions and feel attracted by both ways, but I cannot connect them…What is your opinion? Thank you!

Since my childhood, I want to earn name, fame, recognition and a sense of an important person. Therefore I want that my every demand must be carried out by other people. This is not possible every time. Therefore, when someone does not follow my dictates, I get angry. I snap my all ties with that person. It has resulted in the fact that I am a lonely person now. I have very few friends now. Also I have bad relations with my parents. Is it necessary to change when other people don’t change for you? Why always I had to adjust? Adjusting means defeat to me. Should I always compromise my desires for losing only? Life does not seemed complete and fulfilled without the desires being fulfilled. Plz help me.