I have been in a relationship for 15 years. In my mind we had a committed loving relationship. My significant other was working away from home on a contract and got involved with a woman. I learned about it and was very upset. I have confronted with him and have communicated to the woman he was involved with. He has made a commitment to be with me and work on re-building our relationship. He was involved with a woman that preaches your quotes but twist them to meet her needs. I am trying to help him understand what it means to be in a healthy committed relationship. I am having a very difficult time b/c the woman he was involved with believes in “Deepak Chopra” philosophies and accepts and entertains his behavior. He is fighting to change his unhealthy behavior. As you know it is hard to accept your shortcomings. If someone else says it is ok. It is very comforting.

Here’s one of her her messages to him these are your quotes

I am thankful for the experience ~ I feel lucky*)

“We are travelers on a cosmic journey —- stardust, swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. But the expressions of life are ephemeral, momentary, transient. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment, but it is transient. It is a little parenthesis in eternity. If we share with caring, lightheartedness, and love, we will create abundance and joy for each other. And then this moment will have been worthwhile.”

Dear Deepak, what does this mean? Are you saying it is ok to sleep around and cheat your partner as long as you enjoy that moment? I am Buddhist and very much respect your teaching but this amazed me how people turn it around.

How can this be communicated or explained in the true context of what you meant?

Very much appreciate a clarification to this quote.

Where can I focus my intention to clear  out my significantly negative experience with my mother and develop a real relationship with her, yet not be manipulated or hurt?

I am basically a happy, harmonious person. I feel a desire to develop more on a spiritual level, but I have such a block on the word “God”. So much of the way that word is used actually repulses me. I also cannot seem to separate the word from what it meant to me as a child — the idea of someone, an actual being, up in space. It seems intellectually absurd.

Because of this I have a very hard time reading most spiritual writing and being open to spiritual growth. My questions are these: why would I have such a strong, almost physical, aversion to a word, and how can overcome this?

Since November 2008 I quit my job because of a burnout. In the beginning I didn’t realise it was a burnout. I filled-in that time with a course of NLP-practitioner for one year, and I have been to India to do a teachers course of yoga for one month. After that (past month) I did a workshop from Brandon Bays for “the journey”, I did the “Munay-Ki” the 9 rites and read the book of Alberto Viloldo “soul retrieval”. I did several “journeys” (Brandon Bays).
I am also practising yoga almost every day. Still I feel bored.
So when I watch the movie about the shift I think I am coming in the afternoon of my life and still I cannot find peace in myself, for a short time I am practising meditation and still find myself many times depressed. I know that I am going through a process of changing and I am quite sure that it will be better.
I am 55 now and I am not feeling empty and certainly want to enjoy life for the next 25 years or more. I have always been there to please everybody which results in not feeling what my heart wants. I never established my boundaries.
But this process is already going for quite a time about 1.5 year. I don’t feel the happiness I had before (long time ago) and also my marriage sucks for over 20 years and still cannot decide to divorce. The past year we separated for 6 months and now we are together again.
Is this process, I am going through, the shift like Wayne Dyer calls it? Most of the people get this shift in their thirities. Some people have their shift almost instantly. Is it my ego and fear that I cannot let go things? I am still wandering.

I rarely meditate but try to stay aware of my thoughts, feelings and actions. When I do meditate, sit still or give time to my body and spirit, I have some sense of calm. So, why don’t I do it more often? How can I overcome the resistance?