I am facing thirties and all I have in my resume is mainly studies. I like research and that is why I want to do a PhD in a field I am interested in. The problem is that my studies don’t pay my rent [so I live with my parents] and every time I decide to make a new step in my life strangely enough I fall in love. Lately I fell in love with a man who was in a relationship and broke up after meeting me, and we like each other.
The problem is that he still feels bad about his breaking up from his long lasting relationship, but as he admitted it was holding him back. And this is not the only problem. He lives in another country, a couple of thousand miles away. How can I decide to move to his place when I am not sure about his feelings?
And what about my studies and my future which I am neglecting ever since I met him? Will it always be like that? Falling in love and then failing in my personal life? Is there a particular helpful book I could read?

I am a single mother of a 10 year old very gifted and strong willed boy.  In October 2008 my son shared devastating news that his cousin had been sexually abusing him for two years.  In August 2009 we finished our trial where my nephew was charged with 6 counts of aggravated sexual assault.  I have had in counseling and feel he is doing better than most given his situation.  However, his anger towards me and his sadness is affecting him in every way.  I give him a safe place to get rid of his anger in what we call ‘special time’ but now he is resisting this too  because he feels the yucky feelings come out and he shuts down.  I am so torn as to how I support his process and guide him without being a victim.  I feel as though time is running short in so many ways before all this pain affects his future academically and emotionally.  He has an amazing heart and soul and truly wants peers to like him and wants to do good but the power struggle is preventing all.  Please guide me as to how I can help a young boy before he reaches the teenage years and then finds other ways to hide his pain.

It seems to me that I am not able to accept the pace of my spiritual growth. I always find myself in endless ways trying to speed up the process by learning everything at once or practicing everything at once and arriving at a point where I can accept myself fully without regrets and remorse of my inabilities. Perhaps I am not able to accept my pace, my capacity of learning… I am usually constantly finding myself trying to enhance my capacity of learning and being impatient about it…. I always beat myself up for believing to be able to do a better job of learning that i am not doing…. what can I do to resolve this situation?