I am feeling so lost… so confused. I have read several books of yours, of Eckardt Tolle, W. Dyer’s, and many more on personal growth, and spiritual development. As matter of fact, as I am reading (listening on CDs, I am blind), I understand what you mean, sometimes on a very, very deep level. I really am trying just to be, and have no labels, no names, no stories, no judgement. To the point that lately I started feeling as if I am crazy… maybe it is my ego trying to struggle to stay alive, I don’t know. Though I have moments of panic and chaos, and I cannot seem to ground myself.

I am in a marriage where I now realize that I entered the relationship almost 6 years ago for comfort, and because we both wanted a partner, not for love. Now, that I am starting to understand how just to be, how to simply let someone be… I am realizing that I have never seen my husband, and I don’t mean visually. We are separating in fact, because I decided that I need to be alone… mostly because I am so terrified of being alone.

My life long dream is to write books that help people, and I know that this creativity is pressuring me from the inside. I am already involved in some activities that are helping me tremendously, like training in the Martial Arts of Aikido as well as practice Yoga, volunteering on the local Crisis lines… and yet, most of the time I feel as if I want to, need to do something even more. Something that can really help me to express something inside, and of course, to better myself. I am now very happy that almost 10 years ago I have lost my eye sight due to diabetes. It is because I can’t see, why I feel like I can see inside people, and why I seem to be able to help people on the Crisis lines.

I am very confused with my relationship as well. I can be a very peaceful, loving, kind person, and I really am. And I am finding it hard most of the time to love my husband. I realize that I have resentments for him… but how do I let go of them?

In fact I have done something that I am not proud of, even ashamed of. I have betrayed him with an old friend of mine. My husband is a wonderful person, with many really amazing and beautiful qualities. Though I have to admit, he is unconscious, and very rarely does he see clearly what he is doing, or why he is doing them. He acts out of emotions, and he is struggling with road rage, anger outbursts, mostly over small things.

I know I need to take myself out of this situation, because I need to be honest, I need to speak the truth… and see, I feel so lost, that I don’t even know what my question really is.

Please can you give me your advice—-I am very troubled. Last December my mother became very ill with a stroke. It was a huge shock ans she is now in a nursing home after massive organization on my husband and my part. My father is 86 and wants to stay in the old family house . He will never be able to manage long term but has a cat and wants to stay put. He is almost harder to help than mum because he denies he needs help, then forgets whether he has eaten, whether he has taken his pills, and where he has put his wallet. I am divided between mum and dad, so much so that I actually feel sick with exhaustion and cannot even sleep. However, I love them and want to do all I can. My huge problem is my sister. She came out from New Zealand for three weeks at the start of all this, then basically packed her bags and went home because she couldn’t cope with it. She hardly saw mum and did nothing in dads’ house when she was there—he said she read a book. When she left, there were no meals cooked for him. no washing done, no cleaning. She did nothing. Because of this and her laziness and cold attitude, I had a lot of fights with her. I apologised as I didn’t want a rift and she said everything was fine. That was a month ago and she hasn’t phoned me —or mum—-since then. Her husband phones and says she doesn’t want to talk to me. And gets him to do all the asking. I wrote my sister a long e-mail saying there was no reason for her to be upset, she did a good job etc.   Even tho I don’t mean it, I sent it to calm any troubled waters. Her husband rang again and said my sister “will think about” whether she will answer me or not. She hasn’t.
I don’t know how to cope with her horrible ,self-centred attitude. How can I get it out of my head? I really can’t sleep because of her and I need to be rested as my parents are a full time commitment.  She shocks me deeply. Also, I have done all the hard, hard work and she wants to know all the details of mum’s home so she can ring and have the same respect at the home as I have—–and she has not only done nothing, but added to my grief and worry. Is this just my ego? Or am I right to feel so deeply hurt and angry about it all? What is your advice, please Deepak. Will you help me please?

If everything is as it should be, what is, is, (Seven Spiritual Laws of Success), was Nazi German SUPPOSED to happen? Are all the horrors of life SUPPOSED to be? I am confused. I cannot reconcile Hitler’s Germany as something that was supposed to be because ” the universe is as it is” and that’s all there is to it. Can you please address this? I struggle with this a lot. *( Deepak I saw you  at Mile Hi Church last year or the year before and loved your blending physics with metaphysics and philosophy. Absolutely MEZMERIZED. I have found the need to use empirical information to get to universal spirit). Thank you for you attention to my question. I desperately need to have this addressed.

I’m married for the 2nd time now. My previous wedding was a ‘love marriage’ – now, it’s a typical  Indian arranged marriage. I’m in US with my husband from the past 2 1/2 months, the issue between us is his mother- whom he wants me to listen to, obey and please- I have tried and explained in numerous ways that there’s only so much I can do- I cannot bend backwards and be the person he expects me to be- My fear is that she is planning to come here in March and stay for sometime. His previous marriage too was destroyed mainly because of his mother’s intervention. I don’t know what to do as walking out of this relationship is not at all an option, neither is it for me to be with his mom. I have to state here that I have accepted this guy for whatever he is and is it really too much to ask for if he has to accept me the way I am? He expects me to keep her here forever in the way in which she wants. Should I too start making demands for him to change?

I have studied western philosophy in Germany for 20 years, and the years before that I devoted my youth to study the classical piano. I now finally got my philosophical Habilitation (the grade after the doctor) which qualifies me to become a philosophy-professor, and I now feel like breaking out. I have the feeling I wasted my whole life in front of books (and I love people, music, nature, animals, laughter, company, art, dance, everything! Contact with human beings and everything alive). So I sometimes think of changing everything, quit my job at the university (I am not a professor yet), learn more yoga, meditation, do something for other people, help ,but is it wise to suddenly radically leave everything and start something completely new – out of nothing??? I am a beginner in yoga, and a non-knower in all the other things like meditation or medicine. (Besides: my latest book-manuscript is on creativity, my doctoral thesis was on art, especially music, and cognition, and I loved lately to work about quantum physics and metaphysics/cosmology, so I tried to follow the big cosmic questions anyhow I do not see how to follow my philosophical interests and NOT stay rotten behind the books at the expense of living! My life was not meant to spend it in front of books, I guess, and I spent so much time with books that other humans spent with humans – time that I somehow deeply regret!. So, I plainly do not know what to do in order to not perpetuate the same feeling of mistake again and again until I die!