My best friend is involved with a married man. I see how much she tries to leave him and cut the relationship but she can’t do it. She really deserves a complete and great love. She is very kind, loving, generous and a great woman. But she happened to fall in love with a married man. She started meditating one month ago and sometimes we do that together very early in the morning. I am her best friend and I am also confused and feel guilty because I can’t give to her correct advices. Is she really doing something bad because she is with a married guy? Or love is written in different ways? Maybe this love is not incorrect or maybe it is completely incorrect. What do you think about this from a high level point of view? We both have been raised on very traditional families where dating a married man is extremely incorrect. Is this really incorrect? With him she has lived things that she has never experienced before and she is scared that she will not feel them with anyone else again. I told her that she is in another level so she will attract better guys into her life because she has also grown.
Please give us your point of view.

I love your books and I feel like I know you. Deepak, can meditation help me with my irrational fears? I feel that I’m not good enough for it to work for me. I know that is irrational, but is there a correct way or is it different for everyone? I’d like to get to know me, but it seems that my brain is resisting. Any advice is appreciated! Thank you my friend.

I have been having a love affair with my employer two years now.  When we are at our closest it seems he pulls away by not being close and turning elusive, detached, while I am opposite and feeling my closest to him.  So the backing away that happens hurts me just when I am on my biggest “high” in the romance.  Over the two years he has had relations with other women, for which he has lied about and I’ve discovered the lies, nothing concrete enough to know the details exactly, but enough to know he is lying.  When we are around other women he is friendly with he ignores me completely, barely looks at me or talks to me while very fun, charming, flirtatious, and attentive with the other.  So… I’ve been trying to break it off with us.  I’m feeling it isn’t me personally, that he is addicted to sex or the attention, whatever.  Yet I have work related promises I am obligated to, and the office is much more boring and the day is very long when I try to ignore him; the least attention from me he believes we are “together.”  I don’t know what to do except this is hurting me terribly, my heart, my spirit, my body, my mind, my time.  I am suspicious now of every female, and every pretty woman that I happen to see, wherever I am, even in magazines, etc, become example of my inadequacies, while he seems fine and dandy.  I should add he is the best employer I have ever had as far as kindness in the workplace, patience, and sense of humor… and that I am a financially broken single mom of a four year old, and he is super helpful with my single mom life when I have to stay home with her or go to an appointment, so forth.  Quitting seems awful, sometimes, and other times I could walk out of here and never turn back.
Any advice?

In my past a few traumatic things happened regarding to trust. It’s so hard for me to trust people again. They did not respect my boundaries. Can you give me advise how to trust people again?

I am trying to regain my inner strength by living natural healthy lifestyle. I have always been very strict with self and now want to train my mind with love and softness. It is very difficult to do meditation and exercise on regular basis at home which is now critical for me in order to live healthy life. My mind always finds one after other excuses for being lazy. I have no motivation for living longer this way but find it very hard to change it. How do I motivate myself ?