For the moment I´m totally lost and confused and it causes me daily feelings of stress, anxiety, headache and stomach pain.

I am in a situation regarding job and place of living that I have to change and now an opportunity for that might have come. But the problem is that I don´t know if the timing is right or not, I have
longed for this opportunity to come, but now I am extremely scared. The problem I have is that I don´t know if I have these tough feelings because the timing is not right (if I have to prepare more, or if that is
not the right place to live),if I am just scared of change and uncertainty regarding money (I have to give up a good salary for not knowing if I will have any money), or if I´m afraid to know what I really feel since my opinion might be in conflict with others.

Stress, feelings and thoughts are whirling around so much in my body that I can´t even feel or think clearly. I have a healthy, regular lifestyle and also meditate twice a day. Right now I feel this is what makes me keep my head above the water line, otherwise I think I would freak out. But even if my meditation practice works well and I find peace, I don´t find the answers of what is right to do and how to handle my feelings and fears, and how to sort out what is what, what is fear and what is my honest will. Do you have any suggestions on how to do that, how to go on?
I would appreciate any answer a lot.

You always talk about peace. So want to ask you this question that has left me restless, sleepless and devoid of peace.
I am a researcher who joined this lab of a very senior scientist where I found lots of wrong things happening. When I pointed out these to the senior scientist she turned against me and did ever possible thing to isolate me and mentally torture me in the lab. Finally I decided to leave the lab. However my friends advise me to complain against her before I leave. I want to leave in peace but still want things to change in the lab for other people who are there and people who will join in future because what’s happening right now is unethical, immoral and cruel. If I make a complaint against her, isn’t it a violent action on my part? But if I don’t its awfully wrong too making me a party to the non compliance.

I have had a very pleasant life recently. I have 2 beautiful girls, nice job and a husband. We don’t have any money problems. We had a lot of friends.  I have a lot of love and a lot of inner peace. Last year my husband lost his job, and he can’t find any at the moment. There is a lot of fear in me. Will we have money to pay the bills, will we become poor, will his bad mood affect our family? A lot of “friends” turned back on us and my husband has very low self-esteem. I became very sad, I lost the energy in me, I can’t see the light on the end of the tunnel. I had a very strong opinion that:
– material world is just temporary, the spirit in us is important,
– I am, who I am, and other people are another person.
But now there is something in me, that wants to get of this problem. I love my husband, but I want to protect my children and me of this agony, so I want to get away from him and his problems.
Please Deepak, give me some advice or another view on this situation. Everybody keeps saying it will get better, and I was saying that for a long time, but now I don’t believe it anymore.

I am facing thirties and all I have in my resume is mainly studies. I like research and that is why I want to do a PhD in a field I am interested in. The problem is that my studies don’t pay my rent [so I live with my parents] and every time I decide to make a new step in my life strangely enough I fall in love. Lately I fell in love with a man who was in a relationship and broke up after meeting me, and we like each other.
The problem is that he still feels bad about his breaking up from his long lasting relationship, but as he admitted it was holding him back. And this is not the only problem. He lives in another country, a couple of thousand miles away. How can I decide to move to his place when I am not sure about his feelings?
And what about my studies and my future which I am neglecting ever since I met him? Will it always be like that? Falling in love and then failing in my personal life? Is there a particular helpful book I could read?

I am a single mother of a 10 year old very gifted and strong willed boy.  In October 2008 my son shared devastating news that his cousin had been sexually abusing him for two years.  In August 2009 we finished our trial where my nephew was charged with 6 counts of aggravated sexual assault.  I have had in counseling and feel he is doing better than most given his situation.  However, his anger towards me and his sadness is affecting him in every way.  I give him a safe place to get rid of his anger in what we call ‘special time’ but now he is resisting this too  because he feels the yucky feelings come out and he shuts down.  I am so torn as to how I support his process and guide him without being a victim.  I feel as though time is running short in so many ways before all this pain affects his future academically and emotionally.  He has an amazing heart and soul and truly wants peers to like him and wants to do good but the power struggle is preventing all.  Please guide me as to how I can help a young boy before he reaches the teenage years and then finds other ways to hide his pain.