I am writing because I have been feeling like a horrible person. I am 25 years old and I have been with my partner for 4 years now and I feel like I dedicated my life for him. When I met him he was going through a hard time mentally and I feel like I stopped living just to see him do well. At first I felt like I loved him and I tried everything that I could to see him happy no matter what happened to me. Well turns out that I have been giving so much and never got anything in return. He started going out and leaving me alone, his family started to get involved in our relationship and it got the best of me. I have talked to him about us breaking up and going our own way but he says if I leave that he will be the same as he was when I first met him. So I haven’t left because it hurts me to see him hurt. but deep down I know this relationship is not for me.

Well lately I have been seeing another guy behind his back and I feel so guilty and ashamed of it all. I have tried to stop but something doesn’t let me and I have no control I know it sounds stupid but I feel like I have no other option. Where do I go from here? I feel trapped, I feel ashamed of myself, I feel like I am a horrible person but I don’t know how to change, what to do. I have been through so much in this relationship with my partner I have lost complete respect for him because of all the things he has done to me. But I also feel like I am the bad one now because of what I am doing. I feel desperate. Please help me.

Is the planet Nirubu or planet X entering our solar system in 2012? If so, will the pole of the Earth will change?  Why the ancient Maya’s calender ends on 13.0.0.0.0 which is December 21st 2012? They said there will be cosmic shifting. There are also many oracles and scientist predicted something might happen in 2012. Many doomsday were predicted before like 2000(y2k) but this particular date-Dec21st, 2012 something different, starting from the intelligent Maya’s calender to Chinese A-ching calender means something,  planet Nirubu will cross the Earth after 3600 year. Through my little research, ( I am not sure how true is this) I have found that 3600 years before planet Nirubu crossed the Earth changing the Earth’s pole and ending the civilization of that time. The Maya’s have predicted quite accurately ( again I am not sure how true is this) the date of most of  the past, present and future solar eclipse, although there civilization was long long time ago, where there was no proper astronomical instruments invented. There was a documentary on 2012 on National Geographic Channel as well. But I just hope nothing will happen on 2012.

After reading Dr. Thomas Chalko’s and watching some of your wonderful presentation I have just started doing my Mediation from this year in search of Enlightenment. If 2012 is the Doomsday isn’t it too late for me. The time is very short. Would I able know myself and reach the Enlightenment by that time? Please advise us all ” What’s the best thing to do now if 2012 is the End of our civilization?”  We have searched many journals, videos, articles on this, it all looks confusing and not sure how reliable the information is.
I and my friends will be very grateful and honored if you advise us on these because we believe your answers will be logical, sensible and realistic.
If you someone has asked you similar question and you have answered them, please do send me the link.

I have a hard time fighting temptations especially homosexuality. I know that it is a sin. What tools do I have available to fight this situation. I do pray about it and ask God to give me strength to fight these feelings but feel at times that it is hopeless. I want my life according to God’s plan and his will but feel at times I will always struggle with this situation. Please give me some insight on how to deal with this situation.

I have a small and maybe silly question but nevertheless it’s a nagging thought that’s always on my mind.

I am expecting my first baby who is due to arrive in a couple of months. My mother in law who is staying with us is good to me except occasional differences which I think happens in almost every relationship. Sometimes however, she becomes too interfering and always tells me what to do and how things should be done. Also, very rarely can I go out for maybe a quiet dinner with my husband alone. But I have accepted that too and don’t take it too seriously always as I know that she is elder to me and it’s probably more difficult for her to adapt and change at her age than it is for me. I try to think positively about her always and think of her good qualities rather than what’s not so good coz everyone (including me) has good and bad qualities.

However, nowadays I feel very sad and somewhat irritated at times when she continuously hammers into my head how much she is waiting for the baby to arrive so that she will leave everything else and just be glued to the baby all day. I accept and know that she has every right on my baby and she is after all going to be a grandmother so its natural for her to be happy and excited however, her behaviour portrays as if I have no right over my baby and will have to follow whatever she decides is good for the baby. Even for small things like buying things for the baby, I have to always consult her and follow all her advice which I don’t always accept. She is also extremely superstitious and I follow her superstitions only to keep harmony in the relationship even though I don’t believe in the superstitions. I have also tried explaining to her that these are only superstitions but in vain so I have now stopped trying to change this aspect in her and just accept what she says superficially.

I realize that my baby will be very fortunate to have a grandmother who will look after and care for him/her however, I too have dreams and wishes towards my baby and would like to bring up my child as per my wishes too. I sometimes feel guilty for thinking like this because she is maybe only trying to help and her feelings are natural too. Maybe I am just thinking too much about the future and should just take one day at a time.

She’s always looking at negative aspects and how the children of today are spoilt and keeps hammering into my head how to bring up my child so that he/she doesn’t go the wrong way when in fact her sons are all SPOILT BRATS! this includes my husband who was a spoilt brat but has now changed a lot and realizes whatever he did wrong earlier.

Request your advise Deepak on this matter. I know it’s a very small thing but I’d like to know if I am wrong in my thinking & how can I change this situation for the best.

In this day and age of “looking sexy” or “hot” … I have a very hard time with self-acceptance and body image.  I hear of people who go for cosmetic surgery, because ideally we perceive what is not “normal” or “acceptable”.  So we short change ourselves, comparing ourselves to what the media and pornography says is good looking or pretty.

I am a 44 year old woman who is very insecure about her genitalia, thus my mind obsesses about it , which ruins my days and nights thinking I am inadequate because I do not measure up to what is beautiful … especially from a man’s point of view.  My question.. how can I get over myself and just accept my body for who I am?  I struggle with body image on a daily basis, I criticize and judge myself constantly.  I really look forward to your answer.