I am in a relationship for 7 years now. Now am 25 and he is 38. He is my first love, and I have never felt something like that in my life. My self-esteem was very low through the relationship, and over time I have become more and more jealous, unhappy and scared of him leaving me. I have done everything just for him to feel good, and lost many friends. In the same time pursuing an academic career and from the outside looking very self-confident. The reason for my low self esteem is an abusive family, and he was my knight in shining armour who would save me and love me unconditionally.

But the truth was that over the years he started taking me for granted, and I had became the person who was pursuing him like a mad dog, a shadow, while he was having fun with his friends and he would engage in activities with me only on my continuous demand. At the same time our sex life is incredible, and the feeling of love and unity incredible (when we are together holding hands).

He was like a drug for me. Because of him I postponed my dreams, lost myself, and was growing extremely unhappy and hated myself.

Your books helped me to realise why I was so unhappy. So one month ago, I decided to do the unthinkable. I decided leave him, to start living and breathing on my own. Out of a blue I told him that I have decided to go abroad and finish a PhD, and that it would mean that it is over between us (because he was never in favour of living abroad). He said that he would do everything to keep us together. I thought that he is just saying that because he is afraid to be alone.

So I told him all of secrets I was scared to share with him. And he said that it is no problem. One month now, I am trying to let him go, but he is persistent of us staying together for life.

He says that he is sorry and will change, because he does not want to lose what we have.

Our feeling of love and unity is very strong (like soul mates), but now it means nothing to me because I am so hurt. I felt like in an mental cage I made for myself. Now I am out and feeling wonderful without him. He wants me back and says we can work everything out. I do not know what to do. I do not want to sink back in an old pattern again. I feel the world is waiting for me.

But what if I say to him goodbye and never find a love like this again. It is strong. Again there is allot to do and I doubt will he be able to do it. I am just tired of trying. I have done this for many years, and he would not listen to me until now. When it is too late. What should I do? I have decided to leave the love of my life, and he is giving me the world now?

Is my view inflated by this sense of freedom, and could be sorry later? Will my relationship evolve now, or it is pointless?

Your opinion means a lot to me…..

What is the role of dreams in our lives? Is there always a hidden (or obvious!) meaning to the stories, or are they at times just recycled memories, fragments of what our senses have processed through the day etc.

I am a 24-year-old woman born and raised in Sweden, never felt I belong there so I left for New York when I was 19 to study photography. Since then I have traveled and lived in places like Ethiopia, Peru, Sri Lanka, Brazil and Ghana. With the motivation to pursue various photography projects but also trying to find a place where I felt like I belonged.

The last four years of my life I have felt this reoccurring state of apathy. I don’t feel happy nor severely sad, I don’t really get that attached to people nor places. I also feel this impacting my photography even though I am able to produce an image with certain sensitivity, I can feel it going through me but it doesn’t stay with me. This is really stopping me in going further with my career because I don’t know what direction to take because I don’t go to deeply into subjects even though I yearn for it.
Sometimes I feel like a dead person, it’s almost like a part of me doesn’t want to be here. I have few friends that I love a lot but I kind of avoid people in general. It might seam arrogant but I don’t feel like I get that much out people and I have a tendency to brush people of as boring and plain. I know it sounds horrible but that just the way I feel. I have never been in love and I am wondering if I might to arrogant for it. I will say though when I am interested in someone or something I become borderline obsessive. Everything becomes about that one thing or that one person but that is a state I haven’t been in for a while because I realized it’s not that healthy, but I do miss the high of it.

I also feel it affecting my body, even though I exercise allot my energy is very low, I have trouble sleeping and when I wake up I don’t feel rested. At the moment I very frustrated because I don’t know what direction to take. The best way I can explain it is like you want to run in the race like everyone else but everything is dark and I cant see the road in front of me, and I am just sitting there waiting and waiting for light so I can see the road.

What scares me the most is myself and my reactions. I have a habit to isolate myself and to go so deeply into myself that I cant find my way out again. I have to push myself to leave house sometimes.

I want to feel connected, alive and joy. And I guess my question is if you have some advice how to achieve that

I’ve been working on a new spiritual path for the past 8 months or so. I been under a ton of stress the past year and working with your books and CDs along with your friend Wayne Dyer, has put me on a new life path that seems so promising! However, I feel as if my soul bounces back and forth between levels of consciousness at a dizzying pace. I will feel great for a week,

and then one sharp criticism, or less than stellar performance sends me into a downward spiral. I’m able to work myself back up after a few days, but I always seem to fall back. I do my best to practice the 7 spiritual laws of success and to realize the oneness of the Universe, and that helps me until the next devastating experience. I don’t know if I’m growing or just fooling myself. I’ve been diagnosed as bipolar, but I’ve done my best to heal my mind with meditation and other things, however it brings me into myself, which would be appropriate for some, but as an actor and performance artist I am taught to always have my attention on “the other” and to be as reactionary as possible.

I don’t know if I should give up the theatre (which is my heart’s deepest desire) and resign myself to treating my soul and disorder or if I should continue in this cycle and just work and pray that I will get better

What do you thing of doing ‘affirmations’ to manifest the ‘things’ one wants in his/her life.